About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Thursday, June 1, 2017

The Adoptive Mother's Reality of Adoption


The Adoptive Mother's Reality of Adoption

The adoptive parent's happiness toward their dependent adopted infant was anchored on the belief that the adopted child would adapt and become similar  to the other members of the adoptive family. The adopted infant was completely submerged in the adoptive family's behavior style and knew nothing different from the biological family's expressions, conduct and social graces.   

The sweetness we once felt toward our adopted infant, has turned sour in the passing months and years. The older the adopted child gets, the more different he becomes. The adopted child's development achievements, educational attainment and cognitive awareness push him farther away from who he should be acting like..."Us, His Family". He runs toward becoming a stranger from his adoptive parents and family. It is obvious that the outside influence of school, intellectual growth and educational attainment have had a negative effect on the adoptive parent's control over the adopted child.  
The world outside from the adoptive family has given the adopted child too much knowledge, independence and awareness, that we erase and restore him back to the happiness we enjoyed in his infancy.   
The adoptive mother's intentional resentment, anger and growing hostility toward their adopted child that is now labeled "difficult and problematic".
We were told that adopting an infant would guarantee the adaption to us that he would become one of us, but the adopted child is exactly opposite of who we are. Our adopted child is a stranger occupying a room in our home that we no longer like and can barely tolerate his presence at eight years old. The adoptive mother's constant verbal loop "this is not what I signed up for and all of our efforts to train the child to be one of us has failed".    

The adoptive mother's only recourse is abandonment or psychological neglect.