Emotional Abuse Permanent Impact on Adopted Child's Brain
The chronic cycle hyper-vigilance in adopted children through adoptees in adulthood begins with the primal wounding trauma, being forced apart and separated from the infant's biological mother at birth. The traumatized infant
is shuffled in and out of foster care to be adopted by more deserving parents according to the false beliefs of American society. Where the adoptive mother has experienced personal traumas related to her own attempts at reproducing, she believes that adopting a baby is the cure for her infertility but ignores the monumental and time consuming task of psychological healing from her own traumas. The adoption takes place and the in the adoptive mother's extreme disappointment, she suffers "post-adoption depression" that is currently estimated at 64% of adopting mothers experience post-adoption depression. The depressed adoptive mother is now forced to live with her compulsive decision to act and use adoption to satisfy her infertility problem.
The psychological state of anticipation, hope, combined with physically and mentally doing something to distract the infertile woman from her childless reality gave her temporary relief during the adoption process. When the adopted child is placed in her care, the weight of her denial falls heavily on her world as she is now stuck with another woman's offspring. What sounded great at the time is now a nightmare that was self created by acting impulsively and living in denial of adoption realities, that she can't take back for fear of social backlash as post adoption depression moves in to her life and head permanently. The biological child that she longed for, is replaced by a pretender infant, imposter child that belongs to someone else.
It is impossible to pretend that you care when you are not compelled to naturally care for someone else's child for long periods of time. Even experienced babysitters often meet children that they do not get along with or enjoy. The new babysitter may not like the new child that she is babysitting for three hours, and will decline all future calls from that family as that particular child annoys her. The adoptive mother is stuck with a child that she does not know and does not feel any "instant connection" to the child. Being forced to care for another person's offspring will build resentment with each needy cry.
Some adoptive mothers feel antagonized, bitter and become hostile at the adopted child they feel no connection to. When adoptive mothers feel trapped, where they have no choice the adoptive mother will grow in discontent regarding the adopted child. The adoptive mother will negatively view, negatively evaluate and damage the adopted child's sense of self and self-esteem at the start of their life. Where feeling forced is being controlled and no good can ever come from false pretending relationship.
For the adopted child, the adoptive mother's inability to care or have empathy toward the adopted child causes specific brain functions to develop (survival mechanisms) and retards other normal growth (social brain functions) to occur. The most common and chronic problem in traumatized adopted children is their constant arrousal states of hypervigilance. The adopted child's unconscious reaction to unconscious threats by caregivers that signify rejection, abandonment as the most important threat to one's survival is annihilation. Unsaid motivations by caregivers can never be completely concealed by the most convincing actors.