Adoptee Rage! This blog is written exclusively for the 38% of Abused and Neglected Adopted Children. The U.S. HHSA Identifies #1 Risk: Maltreatment, Child Abuse and Risk for Death In Adopted children. Childhood domination, Coping compensation. Research in Adoption Psychology, Developmental Trauma"The Adoption Paradox". By Rainstorm Red-Smith
About Adoptee Rage
Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.
Sunday, June 18, 2017
ADOPTEE RAGE! Biological Mirroring Develops the Offspring's Empathy _____________________________________________________________
Siegal suggests that that the visual interaction between mother and child primes the moral organ in visceral ways. "Through mirroring, attachment to biological mother helps the infant's immature brain to use the mature functions of the mother's brain to organize its own processes". "We learn to care, quite literally, by observing the caring behavior of our mother toward us." By the age of seven months, these earliest attachments have led to specific organizational changes in the infant's behavior and brain function.
The secure base of the mother in the infant's world, according Bowlby, the founder of attachment theory, the infant learns emotional resilience. The mother is responsive to the child's signals and interacts with sensitivity, secure attachment formed, reinforcing the child's own positive emotional states and teaching him or her to modulate negative states.
The adopted child deprived of the biological mother's gaze, the area of the brain that coordinates social communication, empathic attunement, emotional regulation and stimulus appraisal (the establishment of value and meaning) will be faulty.
Adopted children are likely to develop "insecure attachment" along with all sorts of subsequent losses in self-esteem and feelings of belonging. Infants whose adoptive mothers deliberately ignore them become agitated and distressed. Rather than crawl around like the babies being paid attention to, they stop exploring the environment and either brood alone or desperately solicit their mother for attention. Adopted children of adoptive mothers who display post-adoption depression tend to be anxious and distressed themselves.
The infant learns the world from their mother's face. The mother's eyes, especially, are a child's refuge, the mirror where children confirm their existence. From the doting reflection of its mother's eyes, a baby draws its earliest, wordless lessons about connection, care, love, and about how being ignored makes the good feeling disappear.
The biological mother's gaze determines how the infant offspring sees themselves, their place in the world and the moral nature of people around you. According to Dan Siegal, psychologist who specializes in early parental bonding, every child yearns for and must have, this eye contact for healthy emotional development to occur. Siegal, who founded the new research field known as interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) proved that the mother's gaze plays a critical role in how humans develop empathy.
"Repeated tens of thousands of times in the child's life, these small moments of mutual rapport [serve to] transmit the best part of our humanity --our capacity for love -- from one generation to the next," Siegal discovered.
Without biological mirrored transmission, adopted children deprived of the mother's gaze feel disconnected from others currently and later in life. Many of them will struggle to identify what is wrong, attempt to heal their disconnect in socially destructive ways. Seeking dysfunctional love perpetuate the familiar replacements who will negatively regard them.
Siegal's research proves that that the visual interaction between mother and infant primes the moral organ in visceral ways. "Through mirroring, attachment to caregivers helps the infant's immature brain to use the mature functions of the mother's brain to organize its own processes".
"We learn to care by observing the caring behavior of our mother toward us." By the age of seven months, these earliest attachments have led to specific positive organizational changes in an infant's behavior and brain function.
Having found a secure base in the world, the child learns emotional resilience. The mother's responds to the child's signals, interacts with sensitivity, the secure attachment will be formed, reinforcing the child's own positive emotional states and teaching him or her to modulate negative states.
Before mirror neurons proved the vital link between empathy and parental attention. Through the mirrored love in our mother's eyes, we learn surrender, devotion, and trust.