Adult Adoptee's Living In Persistent Fear of Adoptive Parents
As an adult child of adoptive parents, it is completely normal for you to live in a constant state of fear of the adoptive parent and the punishment based relationship with them where they were dominate and retained complete control over you. The words that you used, the adopted child's thoughts and behaviors...were all "wrong".
The adoptive mother frequently reminded, reprimanded and punished the adoptive child for having the wrong thoughts that reflected the adopted child's facial expressions, that represented what emotions the adopted child was feeling at any particular time. The spontaneous feelings, emotions and facial expressions from any child are "pure and truthful" reactions. When a child is reacting to injustice at the adoptive mother's selfishness, the adopted child feels hurt, psychological and physical pain, and the facial expression screams "injustice" at the adoptive mother. This monumental honesty and truth from a child is seen by the dominating adoptive mother as "resistance" to her control that she over-reacts to with hostility. She may say "you are treating her disrespectfully" and strikes the child in the face to wipe away the child's facial expression that contributes to her resentment of the adopted child. Slapping one look of a child's face creates a new expression by the child that now reflects "fear of the adoptive mother". The adoptive mother justifies her brutal actions by refusing to feel guilty, instead she prefers to feel "anger toward the adopted child" as she keeps her control over the child.