The ADOPTEE'S Perception of Mother's Day
Mother's Day The Servant Adopted Child Serving the Queen Adoptive Mother
The birthdays, holidays and other Hallmark mandated events where Adoptee's are expected to "pay tribute" to deserving others with buying gifts and card giving. The reality for adopted child or adult Adoptee is that we dread these days as it reminds us and screams in our face that we are "adopted". We are less than normal, we were subjected to emotionally torturous and unnatural existence where we live everyday at the mercy of our adopters. At birth we were stolen from our birthright and conscripted into a war against our true nature to endure false lives that we have no control to repair what was taken away our natural childhood with our clan and kin. Adoptees have disoriented sense of cause & effect, right & wrong, cause & consequence as we are forced to lie about who we are, which is morally wrong. All children are born with moral intuition of right and wrong, to live a lie causes the Adopted Child distress that is opposite of the natural child's innate sense of truth.
There are no marked spaces on the calender's dates so we can be prompt in sending our friends and family birthday cards, as adoptee's subconsciously block out the idea of birthdays and holidays as it screams that we were "abandoned on our day of birth. The birthday is to be avoided at all cost, to avoid being reminded that we are forever scarred and marked with the adoptive family's brand. The burning brand of the adoptive mother, our scorched flesh has left it's mark forever on our psyche that can never be removed.
Mother's day is the painful reminder for ADOPTEE'S of what was stolen from us that can never be returned, our natural childhood. Mother's day is a miserable and dreaded day for Adoptees, that becomes especially worse when we become mothers. The Misery-day (mother-day) is not about us (adoptees or our REAL Mothers) It is an entire childhood of being forced to celebrate the cruel and indifferent adoptive mother that took us away from our real mother, that treated us with scorn and shame for being adopted and her hatred toward the adopted child for not being her REAL biological child.