About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Adopted Child Grief


Adopted Child's Grief

Child adoption is a tragedy for the adopted child, the biological mother, father, maternal and paternal families. It is a moral crime and intentional injustice against the poor, vulnerable and the young. The tragedy is the domination of wealthy people taking advantage of people considered "less than", that lack wealth and resources. 

Adoption Tragedy is an event of great loss, usually regarding human life where the child is taken away by force from the biological family and birthright place in the world. Such an event is said to be tragic. Traditionally the event would require "some element of moral failure, some flaw in character, or some extraordinary combination of elements like adoption where it becomes tragic.
Not all tragedy is related to death. Rather it is a precise set of symptoms surrounding the loss that define it as such. There are a variety of factors that define a loss as tragic. For the child taken from his mother, father and family and adopted to pretend the child is someone else, is tragic to that child and his entire biological family.
Adoption Grief's Lasting effects 
The long-term effects of adoption can render it as tragic in the mind and experience of the adoptee. Tragedies often have effects that shape those affected, and are remembered even long after, as they clearly impact the future for those involved. The triggers of adoption grief are anniversaries and birthdays where adopters demand celebrations and the adopted child becomes confused, sad or angry at the adoptive parent's arrogance and the adopted child's feelings are repeatedly denied.

ADOPTEE'S Ambiguous loss is a loss caused by adoption where there can never be closure, empathy or understanding. This kind of loss leaves adopted child and adult adoptee searching for answers the exact answers that are legally kept from him intentionally. This complicates and delays the process of acknowledging grief feelings, and results in unresolved grief. Adoption's ambiguous loss can be categorized into two types of loss, physical or psychological. Physical loss and psychological loss differ in terms of what is being grieved for, the loss of the physical body, or the psychological loss experienced as ongoing in the adopted child. Experiencing an ambiguous loss leads to questioning identity "who am I". Since the grief process in an ambiguous loss is halted, it is harder to cope or move on to acceptance from the type of loss experienced. 
ADOPTEE'S Disenfranchised grief
The second type of grief that can develop from adoption's ambiguous loss is disenfranchised grief. It is also known as unrecognized grief because it often occurs in the loss of biological family and the grief is not taken seriously by adoptive parents or society.

ADOPTEE'S Frozen grief

Frozen grief is the third type of grief, it is a result of the ambiguity of loss because of the physical or psychological disappearance of biological mother and family and therefore one's grief is frozen since they do not get a chance to let grief run a normal course.
The affected adoptee is incapacitated by grief, so focused on the loss that it is difficult to care about much else. He or she often ruminates about the loss and longs for a reunion with the biological family, while feeling unsure of his or her own identity and place in the world. The victim will develop a flat and dull outlook on life, feeling that the future holds no prospect of joy, satisfaction or pleasure. The bereaved adoptee suffers from feeling devalued and in constant turmoil, with an inability to adjust to     (may protest against adoption) life without the biological family.

PGD is defined by its symptoms, duration and intensity. The symptoms are intense yearning for the person, identity confusion, difficulty accepting the loss, bitterness, emotional numbness, inability to trust others and the feeling of being trapped in grief. These are present every day, causing significant distress and functional impairment, and remaining intense, frequent, and disabling for six months or more after the death.

Adoption Grief 

Although extremely painful adoption grief is the ongoing difficult process of accommodating the new life without the adopted child's loved ones. Some bereaved adoption survivors manage to get through the worst of their grief and continue to function and find meaning in life.  Adoption Grief is intense, persistent, disabling and life-altering and is experienced as a severe threat to the adoption survivor's identity, sense of self-worth, feeling of security, safety and hope for future happiness. Although normal grief remains with the bereaved person far into the future, adoption grief is disruptive to the adoption survivor's life that does not dissipate with time.