Invalidating and Disqualifying the Adopted Child's Personal & Individual Needs
The psychological manipulation that adopted children are forced to endure when their attempts hide their true self fail. When the adopted child trusts their adoptive parent too much that they do not learn the irrational adoptive mother's extreme reactive punishments are a pattern intentionally created to interact with them alone, while the adoptive parent's biological offspring receive maternal instinct nurturing, mirroring and bonding.
The conscious or unconscious behavior to Invalidate the adopted child is not merely disagreeing with what they have said. It is a process in which adoptive parents communicate to the adopted child, their target of invalidation, that the child's opinions and emotions are invalid, irrational, selfish, uncaring, stupid, insane, and wrong. Invalidating parent directly or indirect that their adopted child's views and feelings do not count for anything to anybody at any time or in any way. In some adoptive families, the invalidation is extreme, leading to verbal, psychological and physical abuse. Invalidation can also be accomplished by verbal manipulations that invalidate in subtle and confusing manners.
- Adopted child is told "they shouldn't feel the way they feel"
- Adopted child is dictated "not to feel the way they feel"
- Adopted child is told "they are too sensitive, too dramatic"
- Adopted child is ignored.
- Adopted child is judged.
- Adopted child is told to believe there is something wrong with them
- for feeling how they feel.