The Unwanted Child Psychology Study & Psychological Dilemma of Being Adopted
The magnitude findings in the reality of the unwanted pregnancy in this 30 year study in Finland and Norway is ongoing and continues to publish data related to the detrimental effects of being unwanted at conception.
For adoptee's from the Baby-Scoop era all are unwanted and unintended pregnancies, yet we were allowed to mature in utero developing relationships with our mother-self-bond and at birth we were stolen and given to more appropriate, deserving and financially stable couples according to societal judgments.
Through forced adoption we were not necessarily unwanted by our family, as our mother's protested this impossible forced situation that kept her from asserting her human right to parent her offspring. Forced adoption where we are sold and bought by unrelated strangers to be owned by them.
The adoption conditioning to act appropriately grateful, which is against our true nature, yet the manifestation of being adopted is an unnatural act in itself. We adoptees were told, assumed we were unwanted by our adoptive parents whose best interests depend on this lie. And wanted through false assumptions about the adopted child that deny our primal instincts, that reinforce our true nature is in fact unwanted by the adopters.
The truth can only be attained by a reunion with biological family in developing a continued relationship that was severed at our birth. The baby scoop era stole babies from their mother's arms systematically denying her rights and objectifying the child as chattel to be profited by. To solve the adopted child's conundrum is in fact dependent on factual evidence that is not biased by the adoptive parent's need for their own psychological safety. Yet most of us will struggle with this false perception that being taken against our mothers will is perceived by the newborn as being abandoned that is not the fault of our mother.
We the adopted child and our mother are the victims of a tragic practice that is based on supply and demand products of a system based on financial gain. We are hurting, our mother is hurting though years brings denial, defense coping mechanisms and false assumptions that cover up the original tragedy that brought us here. That we were and are the hostages in societal games for who has the most toys. The only way to reconcile this lie is to search for our origins and find our truth to comprehend our origins that is the adoptee's psychological dilemma.