"Fell In Love" The Adoptive Mother Mantra
Almost every adoptive mother that tells "her" story,
the over-used mantra "we fell in love" is used to describe
her feelings. In reality "falling in love" is a romantic notion
that describes the temporary insanity of two young kids that feel desperate without each other. In the adoptive mother case she is desperate for a baby, is driven by resources (money) and demands to get one. To fall in love is between two individuals that are equal in class and both experience mutual feelings.
The adopted child is not in-love with the adoptive mother...As the infant loves his own genetically linked mother, not the adoptive mother. The infant will fight the adoptive mother's intrusions, continue to refuse her until the infant's exhausted hope devastates his awareness of his mother's absence. Where all hope is lost for the infant, depression sets in as he gives up in the face of defeat. In the sorrow of misery the infant has lost, his anguish and despair is all that he has left as the baby gives up on his short life and prefers annihilation to the constant state of being in his mother's absence. Where all hope is lost for the lost infant, he still can remember the tranquility of his mother's womb as if he survives, he will never forget his mother's world and the object of which he loves.