About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Friday, March 10, 2017

Disconnected Adopted Child


Adopted-Child's Disconnection

The psychological definition of normal human connection:
When we think of Connectiveness, we think about the extent to which children believe:
  • #1. they are part of something
  • The adopted child is outside looking in, not part.
  • #2. they can relate to other people
  • The adopted child can't relate in a group of biological strangers.
  • #3. they can identify with special groups
  • The adopted child is isolated from his true self.
  • #4. they have a sense of heritage
  • The adopted child has no heritage.
  • #5. that something important belongs to them
  • The adopted child does not belong.
  • #6. that they belong to something or someone
  • The adopted child belongs to no one, but is owned by adoption.
  • #7. that people or things they are connected to are held in high esteem by others.
  • The adopted child is absent from self-esteem.
  • #8. that they are important...
  • The adopted child is insignificant.
  • #9. that they are connected to their own bodies...
  • The adopted child is disconnected.
It is important to observe and beware of connectiveness in the life of your teenager as there are usually clear signs that he is not feeling connected. He may feel more comfortable in groups. He may think he is a loner, have a hard time communicating or maintaining friendships, be shy and withdrawn, or aggressive and demanding.
Too little connection leaves a teenager feeling alone, abandoned and isolated.  Too much connection may give an impression the teen possesses little sense of self, or is too conforming and overly dependent.
By being observant, you will be mindful of some of the factors that may lead to low self-esteem. Your awareness could also uncover other problems that your teen may be experiencing or will experience in the days to come.
In my next post, I will write about some ways that parents and caregivers can increase the connectiveness of their adolescent. There are practical steps that you can take to make sure your teenager is feeling connected to you and to her family. Connectiveness will have a major impact on how she relates to her entire world in the years to come.