The Psychology of Counterfactual Speculation and Thinking
Adopted children, adult adoptees and biological mothers all have lost their child, parent or family due to forced adoption and in the Baby-Scoop Era that had no control or resources to prevent this tragedy engage in counterfactual speculation. Due to the powerlessness of the adopted individual and their biological parent were/are forced into adoption situation that takes away the individual's autonomy, agency (control over themselves & their body) dignity and force extreme morally reprehensible adoption consequences on them. The mother and lost adopted child's dignity is stolen and replaced by humiliation, monumental loss and their family and community's scorn. In Anti-adoptee and Anti-biological mother adoption communities the suffering adopted burned individual's engage in counterfactual thinking, the adoption community negatively terms "fantasy thoughts" as bad psychotic behavior. Yet as mapped out in the information below, the counterfactual thinking is common, necessary and helpful for the adopted burned individual to gain some form of control and prevention for the future.
Counterfactual thinking is a concept in psychology that involves the human tendency to create possible alternatives to life events that have already occurred; something that is contrary to what actually happened. Counterfactual thinking is, as it states: "counter to the facts." These thoughts consist of the "What if?" and the "If I had only..." that occur when thinking of how things could have turned out differently. Counterfactual thoughts include things that could never happen in reality because they solely pertain to events that have occurred in the past.