The Psychological Problem "ROOT" In Adoption
Adopted children and adult adoptees all have a common unwanted thread that links us together, that we were all forced into adoption against our will, judgement, and choice. We have no choice and we have no voice as we are at the mercy of everyone, our adoptive family, our community and our pathetic culture that applauds adoption, vilifies our biological family and vilifies us the adult adoptee that refuses to keep silent. All adoption propaganda cites the "adoption triad" that includes adopted child, but there is nothing about the adopted child that makes them a legitimate member of a legal purchase and contract. No rights are assigned to the adopted child but responsibility is assumed in the adoption contract. Adoption is about infertile couples who want a baby, and the biological mother that wants to get rid of her baby. That is who adoption serves. Adoption is also a self service device when locally rejected adopters go overseas to buy a child there are no rules or regulations in this feeding frenzy on economically disadvantaged countries where kidnapping adoption is common.
The psychological root of the problem is that no-one would ever choose to be adopted. No adopted child wants to be constantly introduced as adopted, and being adopted sucks. Reflected by the "telling" studies, the older the child...the worse the evaluation of adoption is, told by adopted individuals. The practice of telling a child they are adopted before they comprehend the concept is for the adoptive parent's benefit as the simple mind of a young child will go along with whatever their parents tell them in pleasant tones that the adoptive parents believe the young adopted child's understanding is cognizant that is taken as literal understanding that the child likes being adopted, although they are fooling themselves. The adopted adolescent is "acting out" age appropriate behavior and bearing the truth of what adoption means to them is the worst possible reality a child can tolerate. The root cause of psychological problems is the adoption itself, that the adopted child never agreed to in the first place, that he is saddled with for the rest of their childhood and beyond.