The Attachment-Failed Adult Adoptee
The adopted child that was raised in a hostile, conflict ridden and violent adoptive home that provided the adopted child with constant unrelenting fear of the adoptive mother, only served the adoptive mother's temporary need for a baby. When the adopted child emerges from infancy, the cuteness of a dependent infant has long worn off. The adoptive mother is now stuck with a non biological child that she resents, blames and provokes her hostility. The adopted child is now a terrible reminder that her fantasy of adopting a child was not rewarding, not how she thought it was going to be and to her efforts to save a child were a complete waste of time. The independent adopted child that emerges is the consequence of adopting an adorable dependent infant. The adopted child and later adult adoptee now lives with the psychological flaws caused by indifferent and hostile primary caregiver adoptive parent. Secondary attachment to the adoptive mother is a risky gamble that adoption agencies market as a smooth transition to adopted infant or child attachment. Adopted infants are biologically attached to their mothers before birth and the severing of contact and proximity only exacerbates this psychological damage in the biological mother and her offspring.
Below is the symptoms of unattached children who's secondary attachment to their adoptive mothers has failed miserably.
The Secret Life of the Unborn Child by Thomas Verny, M.D., Delta, NY, 1981.