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Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.
Saturday, December 24, 2016
The Insulting and Humiliating Phrase "the Adoption Plan"
The Most Humiliating and Insulting Phrase "The Adoption Plan"
"The Adoption Plan" is the most insulting and humiliating phrase an adopted child can bear to hear, read or be told by the adoptive parent.
It is ASSUMED that the "adoption plan" was created out of love focused on the child's best interests. When in reality the phrase "the adoption plan" was created by adoption marketing and advertising experts to re-frame adoption into a more positive and acceptable terminology.
"The adoption plan" phrase discounts a child's worth as a human being and repackages a human life into an adoption industry product to be sold to financially advantaged adopting couples.
The adoptive parents that use the adoption plan phrase, they assume that they are far removed from the responsibility for braking up a family, not responsible for ripping a newborn infant out of the mother's arms and are removed from the painful reality that the adopted child will suffer for the rest of his life.
The adoption plan "sanitizes" the filthy reality that adoption represents, the forced removal, legal separation and eradicating the experienced biological mother-child bond up until birth.
When the adoptee hears the phrase "adoption plan" we are reduced to chattel and forced into the fulfillment of the fleeting desires of those who purchase adopted child through the transaction known as adoption. The humiliation and shame that goes with being reduced from a mothers child to being an adopted child for some is a wound that time can't heal. A lifetime of being labeled adopted and the discrimination throughout life that is attached to this label is insulting.
The adoption plan is a phrase that removes a child from his birthright and place within his biological family. The phrase implies that no real mother exists, no allowed biological connection to family and legally removes a child from it's mother, father grandparents and siblings without that child's consent. The adoption plan is a tool that creates the perception of control over a child without that child's consent, dissent or refusal. It creates a paradox where the child has no options, like an open and shut case where there is no point in asking question, as no answers can be produced that are not biased as adoptive parents are motivated to answer questions the way that will reflect their own gratification.