About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Sunday, December 18, 2016

The Highly Sensitive Adopted Child


"Highly Sensitive" Adopted Child Becomes H-S Adult Adoptee

There is a large population of adoptees, (infants ripped out of the arms of their biological mothers, being intentionally inflicted with this trauma at birth that were adopted by more deserving, financially superior couples) that display the personality traits of "Highly Sensitive Persons".

The adopted child that is adopted to supply the adoptive mother with purpose, distraction or to fulfill her psychological needs. This adopted child is not nurtured by the adoptive mother to develop their own distinctive individual, biologically based true sense of self, is denied his natural identity.

The criticisms by adoptive mothers that tell their adopted child that they are "too sensitive", "over-dramatic", "too emotional" and label the adopted child's personality as problematic. The adopted child internalizes the dominating caregiver's vocalizations of intentional destruction of the child's positive natural abilities. The adopted child begins to doubt their abilities and suppress their honest feelings, emotions and anger.

By suppressing their own spontaneous true feelings, the sense of self is distorted as defense mechanisms take the place of honest interactions, that are mistaken for personality by the dominating adoptive mother. The high sensitive adoptee is punished for being honest, showing true feelings and their self esteem does not develop. The H-S-Adoptee lives in constant over stimulation, as the hostility and chaos in the adoptive environment can't be escaped. The adopted child suffers emotionally, physiologically and psychological health in the adoptee is compromised.

Contrast by adopted children in adoptive homes that are nurturing the highly sensitive adopted child's needs by promoting and caring for the adoptee as a unique individual. The adopted children in nurturing adoptive homes experience thriving self-esteem, self-worth and awareness experience educational competence and age related mastery.
Article "Highly Sensitive Person"

A certain innate sensitiveness produces a special prehistory, a special way of experiencing infantile events, which in their turn are not without influence on the development of the child’s view of the world. Events bound up with powerful impressions can never pass off without leaving some trace on sensitive people.” 

(C.G. Jung, 1913)

C.G. Jung, arguably he most influential psychiatrist and psychotherapist after Sigmund Freud, already mentioned in 1913 the concept of innate sensitiveness in several of his lectures. Jung argued that some people are born being more sensitive than others and that this innate trait shapes and interacts with their experiences and their perception of the world. He observed that when sensitive individuals are given the same degree of stress in childhood as non- sensitive individuals, they are more likely to develop depression, anxiety or shyness later in life. However, if sensitive individuals experience lower levels of stress or experience a nurturing upbringing that provides a good match to their innate trait, they show no more of these difficulties than the non-sensitive individuals — or even less, often being unusually aware of supportive as well as negative cues from parents or other caregivers. 

Dr Elaine Aron, a Jungian Psychotherapist and researcher, focused her research since 1991 on this concept of “innate sensitivity”. Based on the findings of her empirical research she published the landmark book “The Highly Sensitive Person” in 1996. Since then she has published a series of bestselling books on HSPs, short for Highly Sensitive Person, and has inspired a wealth of research in neuroscience on “sensory processing sensitivity”.

These studies, using Functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging (fMRI), provide physical evidence that brains of individuals who are “highly sensitive” respond more powerfully to emotional images than individuals who are not “highly sensitive”. This translates to an individual characterised as HSP showing higher levels of awareness and emotional responsiveness based on greater activity in the sections of the brain called “mirror neuron system” and “anterior insula”.

Biologists have found the trait in over 100 species, from fruit flies to primates, and research indicates that between 15% and 20% of the population is born with a more sensitive nervous system. One possible explanation for this is that it offers a different evolutionary survival strategy. 

Typical Attributes, Behaviors & Characteristics of 
the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

It is important to mention that being highly sensitive is not a psychological disorder or a psychological issue as such that needs “fixing”. It is a normal temperament trait people are born with.  However, being part of a minority in society is never easy and it can make you more vulnerable to developing mental health issues, such as anxiety, social anxiety or depression. Other highly sensitive people might not suffer from any mental health issues, but might struggle with functioning in a society that values sensory overstimulation and a fast-paced lifestyle. They might find themselves working in an environment surrounded by people who are non-HSP and might find an open-plan office with fluorescent lighting, noise and time pressure extremely uncomfortable or perpetually overstimulating. Other highly sensitive people might struggle with being in a relationship with a partner who is not highly sensitive. Other HSPs might find it difficult to accept their sensitivity as it makes them feel ashamed or worthless. Another common issue is making life-style changes in order to find their optimal level of stimulation. Growing up with a more finely tuned nervous system and therefore a “sharper” perception of the world can come with its own difficulties and issues. So in other words, the trait itself is not problematic, but it does come with its own challenges that might require some support or psychotherapeutic work.  Common attributes, behaviors and characteristics of HSPs are:

  • HSPs are often more aware of subtleties in their environment and become quicker overstimulated than others
  • HSPs are often more sensitive to physical pain or the effect of stimulating substances (e.g. caffeine)
  • HSPs often respond to lower doses of medications than most people
  • HSPs tend to be easily startled and often feel overwhelmed by loud sensory inputs, violent films or large crowds
  • HSPs tend to be more cautious when facing new situations
  • HSPs are often highly conscientious and have a tendency to be perfectionistic
  • HSPs are easily shaken up and distressed by changes. They also do less well "multitasking" situations
  • HSPs are often sensitive to loud noises, strong scents, coarse fabrics or bright lights (e.g. sirens, airplanes, woolen jumpers, fluorescent lighting etc.)
  • HSPs tend to be "cooperative," rather than "competitive," and often underperform in highly competitive environments
  • HSPs get easily rattled in stressful situations and under time pressure
  • HSPs are highly empathic and frequently "pick up moods" from other people
  • About 70% of HSPs are introverted, while about 30% are extroverted. All of them tend to have rich inner lives and show a tendency to think deeply about the world, others and their lives
  • HSPs tend to need more time on their own in order to reduce their level of overstimulation/over-arousal, often preferring being in nature or in a quiet, less stimulating environment to do so
  • HSPs are often drawn to the arts, music, nature and spirituality and quickly feel an emotional reaction to images of beauty, but also violence or horror
  • HSPs often perform poorly, even doing familiar tasks, when they are being observed or "evaluated" by others
This list of typical characteristics is not extensive. Some people who are highly sensitive might show just some of those attributes. Others might show all of them to some degree and even additional ones that are not mentioned above.