Adoptee Rage! This blog is written exclusively for the 38% of Abused and Neglected Adopted Children. The U.S. HHSA Identifies #1 Risk: Maltreatment, Child Abuse and Risk for Death In Adopted children. Childhood domination, Coping compensation. Research in Adoption Psychology, Developmental Trauma"The Adoption Paradox". By Rainstorm Red-Smith
About Adoptee Rage
Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.
Monday, December 12, 2016
The Experience of Abandonment from Forced Adoption
The Experience of Abandonment From Forced Adoption
The Current Estimate of Adoption Caused Psychopathy
The current 2016 estimate of adopted adults in psychotherapy is 35% of all young adults in treatment programs are adopted. This is a shocking statistic when compared to the general population, which is comprised of only 2% adoptees!
One of the driving factors behind this statistic is the issue of abandonment that accompanies child adoption. Abandonment anxieties morph into attachment difficulties, which are expressed as a behavioral symptoms that adoptive parents demand diagnosis and aggressive treatment of normal human reactions to trauma. The infant experiences long term consequences from being separated from their biological mother at birth which constitutes the first traumatic event that the infant experiences. The second trauma is experienced when the infant is subsequently processed into child foster care as a ward of the state, The third traumatic event that the infant experiences is the result of the "adoption" into the possession of the newest caregivers or third placement into the care of strangers. Scientific evidence can be reduced to the simplest from of "cause and effect", as all of the traumas that the infant experiences are intentionally created to provide children for adopting parents.
Due to the time sequential frame, adopted infants can not display the consequences in symptoms from their experienced traumatic events, that the adoptive parents suspect complete continuity in their infant's behavior. The adoptive parent's needs and desires for a baby have been satisfied and they logically their adopted infant as beginning life with them, which is not factual or in reality.
AS the adopted child develops, attains language skills and begins primary education, the traumatic experiences at the beginning of their life begin to manifest in emotional, social and relational.
The adopted child that grew out of the seemingly normal infancy stage is now plagued with unpredictable and unrecognizable behaviors that the adoptive parents can not identify and is foreign to their own exposure of genetic-family-behaviors. What is considered foreign, unrecognizable or unpredictable behavior in one genetically connected family, may be completely normal to another genetically connected family. Behavior that is not similar, not familiar or unrecognizable to an individual's genetic social experience, is considered wrong, repulsive, problematic and unacceptable.
personality, social and individualistic traits, that belong to and are shared among the members of the paternal and maternal biological families of the adopted child.
The adoptive parents and their extended maternal and paternal biological families experience each other's common-genetically-shared Personality-Traits, Social-Behavioral Traits and Individualistic TRAITS as acceptable ways to conduct the self's behavior socially (that are unique to each biological group). What they have experienced throughout their lives in their social exposure to their biological family members "becomes that family's behavior norms".
Genetic-Family-Behavioral-Traits are unconsciously predetermined and consciously used as markers for "outside of family" social conduct, as family is considered a private social system that exists in addition to (outside of family) outside world social conduct where individuals display their unconscious genetic behavior traits.
In the outside world, the individual's behavior is acceptable due to their (inside world) of genetic behavioral traits. In the outside social world, an individual will unconsciously excuse the unacceptable trait-behaviors of others because they do not exist in their inside world of family-behavior-traits.
The Problem: is that the adopting parent "can not integrate" the foreign behavior of their adopted-child's (genetic-family-traits) Because they consider the adopted child existing in the realm of their "INSIDE-WORLD" where the language is genetic-family-traits.
The adoptive parent's inability to accept the adopted child's genetic-family-traits, the adoptive parent seeks out professional psychotherapist to FIX the child....although trauma, genetic traits and communication dysfunction are DENIED by the adopting parent:
#1. Multiple Traumas experienced by adopted Infant.
#2. Genetic-Family-Trait Behaviors CONFLICT with the adopted child's Genetic-Trait-Behavior.
#3. The chronic miscommunication between Adoptive Parent's Genetic-Trait-Behavior Vs. the adopted child's Genetic-Trait-Behavior
In reality the psychology of an individual Can't Be Fixed or Changed, To assign names to symptoms and treat the symptoms but IGNORE the Root Problem #1. Trauma experienced #2. Genetic-Trait.
How we as a society destroy the adopted individual with new medical diagnosis and drugging them into submission only creates desperate teenagers that now must escape the new medical problems created by the medical and pharmaceutical industry to appease adoptive parents's denial of facts.
Adopted Child utilize coping mechanisms to survive their adopted childhoods. The diagnosis and drugging of an adopted child only serve to distort the problem and create new child health problems including ADHD drugs that cause new life-long addiction problems, and submission with mind altering drugs. The diagnosis of ADHD, bipolar disorder and learning disabilities are symptoms from adopted childhood traumatic experiences. By the time an adopted child becomes a young adult, she may have several layers of emotional and behavioral dysfunction, all of which stem from the trauma experienced during adoption.
We now know that a child’s attachment to her mother starts in the womb, so even a child adopted at birth can experience severe attachment disruption later on in life. An infant’s world changes radically when the biochemical connection to her birth mother is severed. While this can't be mitigated by adoption into a loving family, separation from the birth mother has a serious lifetime impact. Separation can constitute an actual trauma that is significant enough to drive important developmental changes. Some experts are even entertaining a diagnostic label of “developmental PTSD” for infants or children who experience attachment issues as a result of separation from the birth family.
It’s during infancy and early childhood that the right hemisphere–responsible for relationships and emotions–is developing most quickly. So neurological events that occur at this time can have a long-term impact on relational and emotional functioning. In young adults who have adoption-related issues, we tend to see emotional dysregulation along with generalized relational difficulties with parents, peers and social impact.
Abandonment, however, is the core issue for the young adopted child; it’s often what drives all of the other issues. "Experienced Abandonment" is what these young adults are dealing with. Because of early attachment trauma (which they’re usually not even conscious of), the young adult imagines that all the important people in her life will eventually leave and do. Adoptees’s are braced against realistic future abandonment, which leads to high levels of relational ambivalence and hypervigilance.
The first step in the healing process is to get the adult adoptee talking about the impact of adoption—acknowledging the severe and unrelenting loss experienced. Adoption is a beautiful and redemptive event for the adopting parents who believe adoption is the cure for infertility. For the young adoptee the loss is likely not remembered but it’s also not forgotten; it can operate as an invisible emotional force that must be brought to consciousness before it can be dealt with. Adoptees continuing to behave or believe as if they are going to be abandoned at any moment is a very valid belief when you experienced forced child adoption where you had no voice and continue to be forced into silence for your painful adoption experience.