Emotional Regulation In Adopted Children
In the population of adopted children that were adopted strictly for the gratification of adoptive mothers. The adopting mother's distorted perception that the presence, possession, ownership and submissive nature of an adopted child will fulfill her desperate emotional needs. The disturbing unrealistic expectations of adopting mothers to replace a deceased child, adoption infertility cure and the borderline personality disordered adoptive mother's drive to possess a child that can't abandon them.
The adopting mothers distorted reality that is based on possession will cause monumental problems for the adopted infant that will be intentionally conditioned and influenced by an individual with psychological problems that distort the adopted child's perception of reality. As a psychopathic adoptive mother is in denial of the infant's traumatic experience of forced separation, biological mother absence and vilification, and the ongoing trauma of being adopted into a stranger's biological family. The most distressing impact of personality disordered adoptive mother is her own inability to regulate or control her own complicated and complex emotions and distinctive overreactions that constitute her coping personality.
The biological mother-infant-dyad is driven post childbirth maternal-hormones motivate the mother to provide instantaneous caring-responses to comfort and sooth the infant's needs for calm stimuli. The first two years of maternal bonded loving care, determine the child's future "emotional response, reaction and regulation" for the rest of the child's adult life.
The biological family shares genetic personality, behavior and appearance traits that are mirrored by family to and from extended family members. Among a family's signature genetic language, personality traits, shared mirroring and exposure to mirroring, constitute what is acceptable behavior within the genetic family. The genetic family share and display their version of acceptable behavior known as "display rules" of baseline functioning behavior. The family's display rules of conduct are multigenerational family member expressions mirrored by grandparents through genetic offspring as in common, shared personality traits..
The adopted child naturally will display his own genetic family's
"display rules" that are unconscious biological driven behavioral traits. One genetic groups display rules may severely contrast with another family's display rules. The adopted child is expected to adapt to another set of unnatural behaviors that are not unconsciously motivated and must be intentionally done if an outsider is expected to behave like a biological family naturally motivated to their style of behavior and acceptable conduct..
The adopted child's disadvantage being singled out away from his own genetic group, forced to exist and conform to foreign genetic cues and genetic language that he is not aware of causes emotional regulation problems, outside of trauma and distress.
- Situation: the sequence begins with a situation (real or imagined) that is emotionally relevant.
- Attention: attention is directed towards the emotional situation.
- Appraisal: the emotional situation is evaluated and interpreted.
- Response: an emotional response is generated, giving rise to loosely coordinated changes in experiential, behavioral, and physiological response systems.
- Situation selection
- Situation modification
- Attentional deployment
- Cognitive change
- Response modulation.
Strategy to regulate emotional vulnerability
- Accumulate positive emotions.
- Build mastery by being active in activities that make one feel competent and effective to combat helplessness and hopelessness and in creating positive events.
- Cope ahead skillfully with emotional situations (Prepare an action plan with a skilled professional, rehearse the plan(non-judgmental) including relaxation technique and reenact)
- Physical well being, through checkups.
- Low immunity and vulnerability to diseases, manage with health care professionals (E.g. Environmental, Lifestyle, Diet...etc.).
- Eating healthy.
- Avoiding mind-altering substances
- Sleep healthy. (7–9 hours) E.g. Avoid ruminating.
- Exercise regularly. E.g. Psycho-motor activities like exercising and Listening to music and walking, reading, exercising...etc. This helps the induced fatigue to be reprocessed for dopamine release through the positive activity rather than through negative behaviors.