The Social Stigmas Created Insulate Adoptive Parents From Fault
Social Stigma #1. The Adopted Infant:
Being an adopted child is automatically associated with and assumed by society the stereotypical social stigma of being unwanted by our natural mother and family.
When the mother is manipulated, coerced and forced to sign over her rights.
The father is kept away, lied to from social worker demands or the mother is punishing the child's father with adoption secrecy to facilitate her plans.
When the maternal and paternal families are intentionally kept away, from knowledge of their grandchild, ability to intervene or assume care for their grandchild....All are intentional deceptions, immoral, illegal and senseless behavior that directly harms the infant for life with a strangers adoption.
Many adopted children "were and are still wanted by their family" our real family, mothers, fathers, siblings, grandparents and relatives are our right to know as human beings. Not to be bought and sold through sanitized adoptions by strangers that claim ignorance to the trauma that their demands created.
Social Stigma #2. The Adoptive Parents are Model Citizens:
It is assumed that the adopting mother and adopting father are one unit that is beyond reproach. The adoptive parents would never harm a child and have an elevated social status shielding them from any suspicion of negative motivations.
The adopting mother is usually the desperate individual racing against her biological clock to prove herself a mother to society by acquiring a child. Statistically it is the adopting mother executing the adoption plan. While the husband is agreeable with his wife's current pursuit, he does not want to make her angry or cross her.
Social Stigma #3. The Adoptive Family Can Do No Wrong:
It is socially assumed that the adoptive family is a social institution where the adopted child is given a family, a financially stable beautiful home, provided nurturing and financial resources. Society gives the adopting family structure a pass for life if any present or future failures occur in the actions of the adopted child.
When anything negative does occur in regard to the adopted child it is the fault of #1.) the adopted child, #2.) the child's genetics, #3.) the first mother's negligence in her pregnancy, #4.) the adoption agency's neglect to inform. Society holds no consequences, associations and are morally absolved from any connection or criticism to the adopting parents lacking abilities, selfish parenting behaviors, adopted child neglect and abuse.
The reality for too many adopted children is omission & commission, neglect, verbal, physical, sexual abuse. The disturbing actions of adopters to get out of financial liability of the child the wanted so desperately by Re-Homing the adopted child over the internet. The never good "inmate status" of adopted children turned over to the foster care system of payments to caregivers for housing a child. In the foster care system where a child is guaranteed multiple placements in single female run foster homes where verbal, physical, sexual and psychological exploitation are common injuries to children removed from their family homes. In the childhoods of too many children, the foster system caused injuries are far worse than the parent trouble that caused the child's removal in the beginning. Sometimes interventions do more harm than good in relation to destroying children's lives for their best interests.