About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Tuesday, September 20, 2016

Adverse Effects on Family From the Introduction of the Adopted Child


The Possible Adverse Psychological Effects of the Adopted Child On the Adoptive Parent's Offspring (Siblings)

        Possible Adverse Effects of an Adoptee on the Adoptive Family's Biological Offspring

Czech-American psychiatrist Stanislav Grof writes in, Beyond the Brain, (1985): "Although the entire spectrum of experiences occurring on this level cannot be reduced to a reliving of biological birth, the birth trauma seems to represent an important core of the process." (p. 99) If the explanation for symptomology is not pre- and peri-natal trauma, Grof believes that early profound childhood and infantile illness, when there was a chance of dying, is the cause.
He believes, as does clinical psychologist, Arthur Janov, that the roots of depression can be traced back to birth. This common experience of tracing one's emotional disorders to the process of birth (or early life threatening illness) is a common occurrence in the regressive therapies (ibid., p. 247).
Fixation on One's Mother
In cases of severe birth trauma, the contemplation by the child of of the mother's death is often phobic in nature, with the child obsessively sharing with his mother and others his anticipatory fear of her death. The distraught feelings from which the child suffers when contemplating its mother's demise sometimes cannot be contained and is compulsively shared with the mother and with others. This is not the operation of the so-called oedipus complex, but is rather emblematic of the strength of unresolved early traumas of the sibling relating to his mother.
Indeed, this unresolved fixation on the mother, is one of the more potent issues in all of psychotherapy. In the regressive therapies, where extremely early problems can be relived and ultimately resolved, its existence is often presented as an entry point for the reliving and ultimate resolution of early parental traumas.
In later life, such a person would have difficulty in emotional detachment from the mother and transference of its ties to a girlfriend or wife and can present itself as a fear of marriage and of sexual relations. (See Cuddling and Holding As Stress Reducers and . . . As Possible Stress Increasers ). This is so because the later close relationship of the person with a love object is an unconscious reminder of the earlier traumatic relationship with the mother. (For its birth trauma implications, see my article, The Origins of the Fear of Female Genitalia).
When an adopted child enters family constellations as described above, buried primal feelings are brought to the surface in a sibling because of his earlier unconscious feeling of not having the love of its mother. For such a child, attempts at assurance of love do not suffice. The attention paid to the adoptee, who is considered to be an intruder into the family, can be a potent source for the beginning of the birth child's overt symptoms, but it is often that the distress of the birth child's own pre- and peri-natal traumas which are ultimately the source of his present suffering.

Dr. Grof believes the origins of depression are derived from the second phase of his schema of birth stages. His form of regressive therapy, which he calls holotropic breathwork, makes it possible for one to relive the actual feelings and physical sensations of one's birth process. Many claim the earlier one is able to relive these experience, the better the results with the more recent trauma yielding its tenacious hold in the subconscious more readily.
He writes,
"Many people have to process experiences of near drowning, operations, accidents, and children's diseases, particularly those that were associated with suffocation, such as diphtheria, whooping cough, or aspiration of a foreign object." He admits that this therapy methodology is not currently accepted in mainstream psychiatry, nevertheless, "(w)hen our process of deep experiential self-exploration moves beyond the level of memories from childhood and infancy and reaches back to birth, we start encountering emotions and physical sensations of extreme intensity, often surpassing anything we previously considered humanly possible.
...At this point, the experiences become a strange mixture of the themes of birth and death....We can feel the anxiety, biological fury, physical pain, and suffocation associated with this terrifying event and even accurately recognize the type of anesthesia used when we were born. This is often accompanied by various postures and movements of the head and body that accurately recreate the mechanics of a particular type of delivery. All these details can be confirmed if good birth records or reliable personal witnesses are available." -- S. Grof, M.D., The Future of Psychiatry: Conceptual Challenges to Psychiatry, Psychology, and Psychotherapy,(article)

"Children are killing children at an alarming rate. Child abuse is epidemic. Children are harming themselves, committing suicide, at increasingly younger ages" 
--Barbara Findeisen, Foreword in Roy Ridgway and Simon H. House
The Unborn Child, Beginning a Whole Life and Overcoming Problems of Early Origin

Clinical psychologist, Arthur Janov, Ph.D., in his latest book, The Janov Solution (2007), emphasizes the important relationship between depression and birth trauma. His book has seventeen beautifully written case studies of persons who were treated at his therapy center and they form an important and instructive role in pointing out the origins of the person's depressive symptoms. Each is quite different, and yet similar, in illustrating how the foundations of depression were laid down very early in life.
Janov writes that physician researcher, J.K.S. Anand, believed that birth and pre-birth difficulties can often be a matter of life and death, and that the most severe repression takes place during fetal life. This very early near-death trauma will remain with us as long as we live. Medication can temporarily alleviate some symptoms, but the imprint is very early and is about coming close to death. It is a severe trauma with resultant symptoms that interfere with our enjoyment of life.
The birthing baby had felt as though it was dying. For some who came close to death at birth, wishing for death had been a solution to its suffering even before it was born. This solution to suffering and consideration of suicide as a way out of present-day psychological and physical pain often have their origins in this process. The unconscious memory of the stubborn imprint returns when we are stressed in the present. Just about any severe present stress reaches back to its pre- and peri-natal roots.
In the first pages of his book, Dr. Janov suggests that early traumatic experiences are almost always causal factors in depression and that their effects can continue to resound throughout one's life. And it's not just birth, as intrauterine development gone awry can also wreak havoc with the normal parameters or set points for our physiology which influence our susceptibility to depression and other mental illnesses. See Janov's blog article, Life Before Birth: How Experience in the Womb can Affect Our Lives Forever (revised) .
In regards to the genetics of depression, Janov writes that, sometimes, in rare cases, inheritability can play a role. He believes that,
"...by and large, birth trauma and early life experience are the root cause. There are changes in physiology during our life in the womb. The set-points of so many hormones are being established. One may think that such deficiencies are genetic, but there are events that can cause them that are not always obvious. They are only obvious when the patient in therapy descends to the antipodes of the unconscious where the crucial explanation of one's depression lies....A near death trauma experienced during gestation, or at birth, dogs us for the rest of our lives as an imprint held within the brainstem and limbic/feeling centers." (Janov, ibid., pps. 11-12)

Often, their birthing mothers had been heavy anesthetized. Indeed, he believes that anesthesia given to the birthing mother is the most common trauma which a baby endures.
Since the anesthesia is administered to the mother in relation to her weight, the dose is often more than the fetus can safely handle and can cause massive shutdowns of a multiplicity of the birthing baby's body systems. The anesthesia can traumatize the birthing fetus by slowing down its birth and thus can interfere with the primal reliving of one's birthing experiences. Anesthesia administered for the sake of the mother's physical pain can, therefore, deal a triple whammy to the birthing baby!

The early pains of our past are strung together like knots on a cord. A later hurt, such as jealousy, feelings of being rejected, or feeling a lack of love becomes part and parcel of that universal hurt of our beginnings - even sometimes extending into the process of our gestation. These later hurts/pains of infancy and early childhood provide a pathway or opening to our more severe traumas of which the trauma of our birth is the most common. Janov describes the process in his blog of 3/21/09: "Feeling pain in the present can trigger off related pain going all the way back to the womb. That early pain can join the current feeling and become absorbed into the system, eventually leading to connection and resolution."

Evolution gave us our upright position but in so doing guaranteed that each member of mankind must often suffer the sometimes unbearable pain of his birth with its life changing consequences. This becomes so because, unlike other mammals, it became imperative that we are born before sufficient developmental time has passed. At birth we are still fetuses. More growth and development of our brain would require a larger bony-pelvic opening in the female of our species in order to give birth more easily. But if she would have developed a somewhat larger pelvic opening she would become eviscerated by simple gravity. Because of the inadequate size of women's pelvic opening, unlike other mammals, we are born before we should be and remain extremely dependent for a longer period of time than any other mammals.
The evolution of bipedalism had the important benefit of freeing our hands for other activities, such as seeking food and caring for offspring, but it also subjected the child being born to overwhelming trauma because it placed a limit on the size of the pelvic opening. For information about how birthing can produce PTSD in the birthing mother herself, read, on this website, my article, Maternal Birth Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.