The Adopted Child's Grateful Debt
Is an unrealistic expectation imposed on the adopted child by society and the adoptive parents that can never be repaid, paid in full or logically satisfied.
The "Grateful Debt" is a moral debt, a behavioral debt, an implied liability and the sole responsibility of the adopted child to fulfill through their actions and intentions to fulfill their "adopted Child Role" in their best possible ability.
Although the grateful debt is constantly gaining interest and the principle is never paid down at the bank of the moral code of humanity in the U.S. pro-adoption culture.
The Gratefulness Hypothesis
In the adoption paradox, the "Grateful Debt Theory" proves itself in the eyes of society that expect the adopted child's failure to continually to prove himself worthy to the adoptive parents. The adopted child's worthiness is proven with unconditional allegiance to accept, incorporate and adapt to the adoptive parent's beliefs, norms and values with complete abandonment of the adopted child's natural or genetic tendencies and motivations for identity, self actualization and authentic agency. The allegiance to the adoptive parent is easily accomplished in young childhood as they lack general cognitive awareness, ability to comprehend, form or execute complex concepts.
Example: the concept of child adoption, the complexity that it entails and the impact from child adoption on an individual that has experienced adoption or the monumental losses and implications that are consequences of.
Gratefulness can be measured in young adopted childhood by the child's innocence from the understanding of the world's complexities. The adopted child is perceived as psychologically healthy, un-effected by adoption in young childhood which is equated to being grateful by the standards of affected or not effected.
The simplistic view from a child's perspective as they are ignorant of the suffering and injustices in the world. The adopted child's ignorance keeps them outside, removed and away from the factual knowledge of their own facts and the suffering that comes with comprehending during their own cognitive development in adolescence.
Comprehending complex concepts about the world and the self brings self identification relating to the concept of being adopted and how the self is effected by the concept of being adopted is a personal enlightenment about the "cause" adoption and "effect" How it effected and effects me.