The Normal Process of "Counterfactual Thinking" Vilified In Adopted Children
In recent research I keep uncovering "psychology principled facts" that is opposite of current adoption psychology research education. These relics from the past claim themselves "psychological experts in adoption" yet have no current training or awareness of 21st century collective progressive topics and advancements in the psychology of child adoption. These child development experts wrote the psychological manuals of adoption behavior a half century ago that is utilized currently by adoption industry exploitation. These psychology dinosaurs from the "blank-slate-theory" continue to influence with a bygone era education that chronically pinpoints many adopted child behaviors as "disturbing". Yet these so called experts continue deny that child adoption has a dedicated psychological school of study known as "psychology of child adoption" with specialized academic protocols with corresponding educational degrees.
The so-called "adoption experts term "negative behavior" in adopted children was/is described by experts as "Magical Thinking" and "Biological or Birth Parent Romance" when an adopted child thought or think about their biological mother, father, siblings, family etc.. The literature tries to persuade the adoptive parent that the adopted child's magical thinking will interfere with the identity development of the "adopted identity". The true identity development can not take place as the adopted child is lacking all relevant information about the adopted child's true biological identity. The adopted identity is a temporary identity during adopted childhood. When the adoptee reaches age of majority, the biological reunion will fill in the biological facts of his true identity and give the adoptee the tools to integrate the identity that the adoptee chooses free from bias, influence or guilt about who he is.
The term "Counterfactual Thinking is a common thought process that all humans engage in, thinking behavior that sorts out past experiences, events and scenarios. That assist the adopted child in "Not reproducing the undesired effects of adoption" and gives the adopted child "psychological control" over his life, where adoption was in control of the adoptee's life previously.
Magical thinking, birth parent romance or counterfactual thinking should be thought, acted-out and observed in psychologically healthy adopted children as a normal manifestation from the ambiguity of forced adoption placement and lacking life facts.