Parental Idealization and Devaluation of Biological Offspring
This essay, written about the biological parent-child dyad explains the norm of a biological parent projecting psychologically onto their offspring, their own biased IDEALIZATIONS and DEVALUATIONS. In their genetic offspring where the parent can clearly see themselves reflected back at them ...that is based in the genetic mirroring of the biological parent-child.
Now see the perspective of an indifferent adoptive parent caring for a stranger's offspring. The adopted child possesses no similarity, no ques, no familiarity in any emotional dialog, personality or inflections. As for the adoptive parent, absolutely nothing is familiar about the adopted child to the adoptive parent and never will be. The adopted child is an extreme alien, forever unknown to the a-parent and this foreign personality in the adopted child that will never be trusted, will never be understood throughout life by their adoptive parent.
The Devaluations of the adopted child will take president over idealizations as there must be biological mirroring from genetic parent-child to reflect the genetic parent's self image....for their offspring to be idealized.
Idealization and Devaluation