"Abandonment" Definition and Understanding the Adopted Infant's Trauma
The definition of abandonment (article below) uses the explicit example
of the adopted infant, that the U.S. pro-adoption society completely ignores, discounts and invalidates the abandonment experience and the emotional and physical fallout of being abandoned for adoption purposes. Based on the century old "blank-slate theory" that has been proven false time and again, by scientists, social, psychological and child development experts. The abandonment trauma that the adopted child experiences carry with it it's own consequences as the trauma from separation, that the biological mother experiences equally with her severed-bond adopted child. Both will suffer life long effects from the abandonment trauma that can never be undone, fixed or healed. Like the abandonment action, the trauma manifests as a reaction to the forced or compliant separation. The abandonment is an event, the reaction is an event and adoption is an event, all are events that happened at a certain point in time, some are documented with a date stamp, other events are not date documented. If the infant's reaction to his abandonment was documented and dated on the infant's medical chart , maybe the reaction and the expected sequence following such a horrible event, the event, the reaction and the diagnosis of PTSD, would be taken more seriously instead of being ignored by society.
The adopting mother's perpetual denial of the "infant's lived experience in being abandoned", the infant's physical and emotional experience & reaction to being abandoned, the resulting manifestations to the infant's mind and body from anxiety, fear and PTSD are reactions from the infant's assault.
The infant's perception is loosing the other-half-of-himself (his mother), prematurely forced into the state of self-recognition (9 months premature), and the infant's most horrible experience in being alone from his mother. His isolation, fear and pain that the infant experiences is a valid perceptions that the infant's first experiences in the post-birth world is frightening.
The entitlement mind set that too many adoptive mothers possess in their selfish perspectives that they are the "chosen one", the chosen mother by their god to save the adopted child from their true genetic nature, is proven to fail and disappoint when reality and time reveal the adopted child to be the carbon copy of their biological parents in adolescence. To deny the horror that the infant has endured is to forever silence his voice, as he is a designated object to be consumed and nothing else.