Dysfunctional Adopted Childhood Relationships Replicated In Adulthood
There are several psychological observations, thesis, studies and reflections by psychotherapists that specialize in "adoptee issues" that contribute to this (new and agreeable to me) revelation of adult adoptee behavior.
Many adoptive parents adopt children for the wrong, selfish and narcissistic reasons. These adoptive parents provide dysfunctional and disturbing adult-child relationships that the adopted child uses as their foundation to compare all other relationships to the outside world with.
The adopted child and later in adulthood adult adoptees, have extreme trouble relating to others, based on their childhood experience of being neglected and maltreated by adoptive parents. This is not the fault of the adopted person, it is a direct result from psychologically unstable adoptive parents that negatively influence the child by their own dysfunctional personality.
When the adopted child knows no other way of relating other than being the victim of the adoptive parent, they replicate the adult-child aggressor-victim, domination-submission, and master-servant dynamic in new romantic relationships, that are ultimately not fulfilling and dangerous to the person that feels no worth to the world. The adoptee becomes trapped in the abuse cycle pattern and stages stages. The adoptee replicates the disharmony, disgust, and planning to escape cycle of brake-up, just like they did in adolescence when they decided to escape for the first time.
The worst part in "adoptee enlightenment" is looking back on all of the adoptee's worthless relationships, where the adoptive parent's bad behaviors and characteristics can be seen in the various spouses of the adoptee. Replicating the cycles of childhood is an unconscious habit where we seek comfort and familiarity, unfortunately for abused adoptees that familiar maltreatment is what we seek to replace with the similar likeness of our abusive parents.
Estimated least possible affected at 25% of adult adoptees survive abusive, hostile and neglecting adopted childhoods perpetrated by adoptive parents.
As a result of a supply-demand driven adoption markets where anyone can pay enough money to get a child without any human over-site, child welfare checks post-adoption and lacking human rights keeps adopted children commodities.