The Forced Emotional Suppression of the Adopted Child
An adopted child that is raised by a narcissistic adoptive mother, the adopted child's emotional needs are ignored, considered an annoyance and overly dramatic. These unwanted and intolerable emotional disruptions by the adopted child invoke hostility, anger and punishment by the adoptive parent.
Some adopted children, myself included are conditioned by being punished - into suppressing all emotions. Although I was not able to hide or mask my facial expressions, that always resulted in being struck or slapped across my face. Being frequently punished for having a certain "bad", "mad" or having any type of unacceptable look on my face was an automatic slap in the face. Being punished for looking unhappy, having an unpleasant look on my face was considered punishable for having a "bad attitude" look on my face. This is how to condition a child to live in fear of their adoptive mother and the fear instilled will last throughout the adopted child's life. Punishing the child for the perception of negative non-verbal behavior.... Teaches the adopted child to hold all feeling in, to the point of numbness. As an adult we become so out of tough with our own emotions that the past childhood traumas and recent situations experienced receive no reaction and small insignificant things receive a breakdown cry. The result from having minimal connection to the emotional self as the repeated humiliations from childhood attack the child's core identity, adopted identity, ego and dignity. What is left over in an adult adoptee is the psychological disaster masterpiece created by the narcissist adoptive mother.
___________________________________________________ Below is the Definition of Emotional Suppression and Consequences:
Components of expressive suppression
Externalizers vs. internalizers
This suppression is a result of “the punishment and consequent conditioned inhibition of all expression of a given emotion” (Buck, 2003, 56). If a masculine individual expresses an emotion that is undesirable and society responds by punishing that behavior, that masculine individual will learn to suppress the socially unacceptable behavior. On the other hand, feminine individuals do not experience the same societal pressure to suppress their emotional expressions. Because feminine individuals are not as pressured to keep their emotions concealed, there is not a need for as much expressive suppression on their part.