Maternal Deprivation Affect on Adopted Infants
Adopted infants suffer the traumatic event of maternal separation, are denied the continuation of their biological relationship bond with there biological mother, that is hormone driven-reciprocated between genetic mother-offspring dyad,
and are forced by adoptive parents to deny their traumatic experience, consequences and future healing.
The adoptive parent's intentional denial of the adopted infant's biological separation trauma is a predictable response from the adoptive parent's "cognitive dissonance". The psychological defense mechanism cognitive dissonance plays a great role in adoptive parent's avoidance of shame, denial of who the child was, is, who the child's mother is and how they separated the pair to fulfill their own selfish needs, wants and demands.
Their denial of the impact and consequences that the adoptive parents directly caused the suffering of the nameless mother and her offspring to satisfy the adoptive parent's desires to parent a biological mother's offspring. The common sense, laws of nature and morality, is that the child will always belong with the child's biological family, and will return after the adoption ends at age of majority, 18 years of age adulthood.
If the adoptive parent were to honestly acknowledge any psychological harm to the adopted child and the adopted child's biological mother, the adoptive parent would experience excessive guilt, moral sadness and selfish based shame in their selfish demands to intentionally separate a child from it's biological mother, to fill the empty void in their own life.
that the adopted child experienced trauma ever existed.
The traumatised child will suffer maternal depravity, as their biological mother is the only person biologically and hormonally driven to nurture their offspring by intuition, biological similarity and genetic mirroring. The adoptive mother is not driven by pregnancy and postpartum hormones, she can not intuitively understand or communicate in the biological mother-infant chemical language, and can not provide genetic mirroring to non-genetic offspring.
The adoptive mother relationship is based on the interpersonal relationship theory of likeness, where the adopted infant is expected to act similar to the adoptive family, disregarding their own spontaneous personality and true self. While this "adopted child role" works well in young childhood, the charade can not logically last forever. When the "adopted child role" begins to deteriorate in adolescence when the adopted child is attempting to form an inauthentic adopted indentity that does not fit with reality. The young adult adopted child is attempting identity, yet is denying the truth of who the adopted child really is genetically the adoptee must make decisions based in truth and not in lies to accept himself authentically.