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Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
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Saturday, May 28, 2016

Characteristics of Emotionally Abusive Adoptive Mothers


Characteristics of Emotionally Abusive Adoptive Mother

The Emotionally Abusive mother's behaviors and characteristics reduce the child to a puppet on strings. Some of these emotionally abusive characteristics have been linked to mental illnesses such as addiction, according to Adults Surviving Child Abuse. Many children are affected by emotional abuse carry the weight of their experiences to adulthood. In the 1997 study “Emotional abuse of children: issues for intervention,” published in “Child Abuse Review,” about 25 percent of survey participants reported that they had been emotionally abused by a parent. 

Many parents are expected to put their children’s needs above their own, but an emotionally abusive mom would laugh at such demands. Her own interests are prioritized over her child’s, according to Adults Surviving Child Abuse. Her actions do not reflect those of a mom who is looking out for the best interest of her child, as the abusive mother has her own desires to satisfy.

Antagonistic Mother: 
For an emotionally abused child, bullying starts in the home. The mother may be verbally abusive and hurl insults, rude names and put-downs at him. Her comments are degrading and demean her child publicly just to humiliate him. If her child shows that he is upset, she invalidates his feelings, acting like the child's emotions don’t matter and protests that it is the child's fault for being too sensitive.

Possessive Mother:
A mother who is emotionally abusive is possessive and controlling, especially when her children are adults. She may overlook different aspects of her child’s life and expect him to run all decisions by her, no matter how little. The child is not seen or treated as someone with thoughts and feelings independent from her own. If she does not have a close circle of friends, she will forbid her child from hanging out with friends, isolating him from his peers.

Manipulative Mother: 
Emotionally abusive mothers use emotions to manipulate their children. An emotionally abusive mom will play the victim if her child protests her requests or shows disapproval of her behavior. She might use emotional blackmail by holding back affection, giving the silent treatment or sulking to make her child feel guilty. When it comes to taking responsibility for her actions, she does not own up to her mistakes and usually blames her child. She will avoid saying sorry, and may never apologize at all.