The Vilified Adopted Child's Face Is their Biological Parent's Face
To the emotionally immature adoptive parent, the adopted child is seen as unfamiliar to the biological family that adopted the child. The adopted child relationship can not be assumed. The biological offspring relationship can be assumed, as it is a continuation of the biological parent's offspring in their life cycle.
The adopted child's biological parent is the villain that may steal their adopted child back, this fear theme of all adoptive parents that lives constantly within them.
As the adopted child grows from a stereotypical infant to a toddler, to young childhood, as their physical appearance begins to reveal the villain of their biological parent's genetics, that the adoptive parent resents, hates and fears, now has a real face to attach the anger and dreadful emotions to.
The adopted child's face becomes the visual representation and embodiment of the bad biological parents, the adopted child becomes the very person that the adoptive mother resents, fears and hates, although she never before knew what they looked like. Now the bad biological parent is staring the adoptive mother in the face through the adopted child's face.
This scenario plays out in the adopted child's adolescence where the adopted child is struggling to form a true identity outside of the"adopted child role" that has been forced on the child by the adoptive parent's unrealistic expectations and need for emotional pacification by their adopted child.
The adoptive parents can see now what the biological parents look like, yet the adopted child can not, as when the adopted child looks in the mirror all they can see is a stranger. Without biological mirroring the biological child is blind to who they are.