Emotionally Immature Adoptive Parent's Impact Is Forced Into Adopted Child's Life
|How parents impact children|
When Parents are Immature
It is the intention of all parents to offer their children love. However, parents who are
Behaviors that indicate immature parenting:
Immature parents do not perceive themselves as capable, functional adults.
Immature parents experience the world from a child's perspective.
In the family, immature parents do not function as adults. Instead, they function as children
Immature parents are often unaware of being emotionally hungry.
Parental behaviors that indicate parental hunger:
Taking a proprietary interest in one's child
Emotionally hungry parents fail to see their child as a person separate from themselves.
Living through one's child
The emotionally hungry parent has an intense and inappropriate focus on the child.
Forming an exclusive relationship with one's child
The emotionally hungry parent can form such an intense, suffocating and draining
Children's behaviors that indicate parental hunger
The children of emotionally hungry parents are born or adopted into an especially destitute
As a result, children who suffer from the focus of an emotionally hungry parent exhibit certain
When parents try to live on through their children
Parents who have not come to terms with their own mortality often use their children or
When parents fight with each other
Immature parents usually act out their irrational emotions freely.
Children are highly sensitive to their parents' feelings toward each other.
Children are also sensitive and suffer from their parents' feelings toward themselves.