Adoptee's Impossible Task Of Identifying Feelings
The Eight Core Issues In Adopted Child's attempts at constructing their true self by acknowledging real and unpleasant feelings:
What, who, when, why & How Adoptee's loss...
Loss of maternal and paternal families, siblings,
ancestry, heredity,. Loss of the true self in the
attempt to fit the "adopted child's role".
We are rejected, we are ignored by our family extended, maternal, paternal and Adoptive family, peers, community, society & ourselves.
We adoptees reject ourselves and reject the
the boyfriend, friend and anyone we trusted
before they will reject us to save face., As they
will eventually dump us because we are not
worthy...deep down inside we are not accepted.
Adoptee's are born as the proof of shame.
The constant humiliating of the adopted child
by the adoptive mother's need for public attention & recognition for adopting a child. The
"savior" for adopting a child reinforces the shame
and humiliation that the adopted child feels each
time the adoptive mother re-tells that the child is
adopted she receives gratification, ego boosting.
Adoptee's are punished and manipulated as a
tool of Guilt by adoptive parent programming.
Making the adopted child feel guilty is a common
and psychologically manipulating cruelty by
selfish adoptive parents. Making adopted child
responsible for the parent's well-being a tactic
to retain control and domination over adoptees.
The grief that plagues adopted child & adult adoptee is not allowed to be acknowledged,
spoken or discussed. Adoptee's must hold-in
their grief and pretend that the overwhelming feeling of pain & suffering does not exist.
The adopted child's identity is erased, hidden
and changed for the purpose of concealing the truth of the child's authentic identity and the
identity of the child's biological parents. The
adopted child is expected to lie about who he
really is and pretend to be child of the adopter.
The adopted child/adult adoptee has extreme
difficulty at pretending to care, pretending to
connect to others and acting like they are some
how bonded to other human beings. Attachment
Failure and primal attachment severing by child relinquishment at birth is the contributing factor.
The child development pyramid my Erickson
is not accomplished as normal biologically raised
children meet this standard. The overbearing,
controlling and dominating adoptive parent
creates in the adopted child a fear based childhood environment where the child experiences and is conditioned, to being confined controlled, suffocating & prison type of master
and servant relationship. Normal childhood freedom, play and exploration is non-existent
in the adopted child's narcissistic structural
environment created by the confident lacking
or narcissistic personality disordered adoptive mother.