About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Psychological Maltreatment By Adoptive Mother


Maternal Affective Disorder in Adoptive Mothers

Adoptive mothers that have experienced multiple miscarriages, stillbirths or lack of conception are mentally scarred by their experiences and develop 
a demanding and desperate need to get or buy a ready-made baby that they believe will satisfy their inability to produce their own biological child.

The psychological problems created by their lack of pregnancy is never addressed or grieved my the adopting mother. 

Due to the lack of post-natal hormones that equip the birthing mother with the biological tools to bond, intuition and long-term care giving of her offspring,
the adoptive mother lacks these necessary biological motivations to sustain a normal biological parent-child relationship.

The "old wives tales" that adoptive mothers tell themselves, tell others and try to believe, that their love for the adopted child will be enough...Is a dangerous and false assumption that the adopted child will always suffer from throughout their lives.

The reality of the adoptive mother is that the "love will be enough" will always and surely fail her and the adopted child. As the adopted child has their own identity, their own real parents and heritage that does not belong to the adoptive mother, but the adoptive mother will do all she can to keep the truth and the reality from the adopted child forever.

Many parents are expected to put their children’s needs above their own, but an emotionally abusive mom would do the opposite. Her own interests are prioritized over her child’s, according to Adults Surviving Child Abuse. Her actions do not reflect those of a mom who is looking out for the best interest of her child. An example is a mother who “mis-socializes” her child by encouraging him to engage in criminal or indecent behavior.

She Antagonizes

For an emotionally abused child, bullying starts in the home. The mother may be verbally abusive and hurl insults, rude names and put-downs at him. Her comments are degrading and she might demean her child publicly just to humiliate him. If her child shows that he is upset, she invalidates his feelings, either acting like his emotions don’t matter or that it is his fault for being too sensitive, according to “Signs of Emotional Abuse” on PsychCentral.com.

She is Possessive

A mother who is emotionally abusive tends to be possessive and controlling, even when her children are adults. She may overlook different aspects of her child’s life and expect him to run all decisions by her, no matter how little. The child is not seen or treated as someone with thoughts and feelings independent from her own. If she does not have a close circle of friends, she may forbid her child from hanging out with friends, isolating him from his peers.

She is Manipulative

Emotionally abusive mothers know how to use emotions to manipulate their children. An emotionally abusive mom will play the victim if her child protests her requests or shows disapproval of her behavior. She might use emotional blackmail by holding back affection, giving the silent treatment or sulking to make her child feel guilty. When it comes to taking responsibility for her actions, she does not own up to her mistakes and usually blames her child. She may have a hard time saying sorry, or may never apologize at all.