About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Being Adopted


Being an Adopted Child

A multitude of issues may arise when children become aware that they have been adopted. Adopted children may feel betrayal over the loss of their birth name, birth identity, knowledge of and relationship with their birthparents , the loss of their culture and birthright to their own family connections that were stolen away from the adopted child by their adoptive parents actions "to save them" by adopting the child and erasing their truth.
This feeling of loss is especially intense in closed adoptions where the adoptive parents legally erase the child's identity that make adult reunion almost impossible. The adopted child's constant feelings of loss and grief are ignored, punishable and the hostility of atmosphere is created by selfcentered adoptive parents that see the child's questions as anger provoking. Feelings may be triggered at many different times throughout the adopted child's life including when they first learn of their adoption, during the teen years when the adopted teenager becomes cognitively aware of how adoption impacts the adopted. Upon the death of adoptive family members, when becoming a spouse and fears of their newborn children being hijacked into forced adoption as adoptee's become parents.
There will always be significant dread about feeling abandoned again by intrusive dominating adoptive mothers. Being repeatedly told or actions expressing that the adopted child is "not good enough".  Specific confusing feelings over their birthmother's lack of choice or force and negative social influence that forced their child away. Such hurtful and vulnerable feelings may be compounded should the child learn that the birthmother later had other children that she chose to raise herself.

Adopted Children: Tracing History

Adopted children may also suffer from a loss of identity, forced adopted identity, which leaves no clues to access to important medical or genetic birth family histories as adults, as adoptive parents choose to erase all the child's truth in documentation during the adoption process.  Although adoption agencies take no responsibility to the children they sell or waste resources by gather medical and family history information.

Potential Psychological Effects

Adopted children struggle with  authentic self-esteem, false identity and development issues that biological children take for granted.
Identity issues are of particular concern for teenagers who are aware that they are adopted and even more so, for those adopted in closed circumstanceSuch children often wonder who they are, was force asserted in the reason they were given up for adoption. They may also wonder about what their birth family looks like, acts like, does for a living, etc.
  • They may struggle with the knowledge that they may have a whole other family "out there" including half-siblings or extended family members that they may never meet.
  • These issues may still arise in open adoption circumstances, but in that case, adopted children may have the opportunity to form some manner of relationship with their birthmother so as to gain direct access to relevant information.
Guilt feelings may accompany such identity issues and concerns.
  • Adopted children may be conditioned to believe that they are betraying their adoptive family and/or that they will hurt their adoptive family by expressing their desire to learn about their birth family.
  • In a best case scenario, adopted children do not have to wonder how their adoptive family members feel about their interest in their birthparents because adoptive parents
  • forbid any conversations about it.