Parataxic Distortion In Adoptee Identity
Adopted children are psychologically motivated and conditioned by their forced constant adapting to the current adoption relationship, to avoid abandonment by nurturing or abusive adoptive parents.
The alien atmosphere to the adopted child is lacking all biological cues and clues, resulting in a constant guessing game as the adopted child blindly attempts to interact and assert their place in the world
is met without comfort, honesty or truth.
The adopted child's frustration is a common everyday reality that is met with dishonesty, secrets and lies. The resulting adopted childhood development and milestones are not met, mastered and developmental arrest. (Erikson's Stages of Childhood Development) Not mastering each stage of development causes the adopted child developmental arrest at various development stages of psychosocial development.
The result of adopted child's adopted IDENTITY is an identity created specifically to please the adoptive parents and family.
The adoptee will create multiple identities for specific people or groups to fit within them. Although the use of these separate identities is exhausting and in complete conflict with the adopted child's true and real identity.
The adoptee's real identity is rarely seen, kept deeply secret and not permitted to be personally explored, as it might destroy all of the other acceptable social Identities that the adoptee has painstakingly created to be allowed to exist among others.