Born With A Broken Heart
The adopted child is born, simultaneously abandoned and separated from their biological-self...mother.
The broken hearted newborn can never recover from the separation trauma of intentional adoption abandonment.
The "adoption plan" is a nice way to re-frame the truth of abandonment to suit the baby buying demanding adoptive couple, as everything that follows adoption suits the adoptive parent's needs.
Everything the adopted child is allowed to know is sifted through the filter of the selfish adoptive mother's fears and denial.
The biggest lie is the lie that adoptive mother's tell themselves....like "god gave me this child" although I stole the child from the arms of the child's biological mother. The adoptive mother's life is lived in denial and has serious impact on the way denial of truth shapes the adopted child in too many negative ways.
The adoptive mother is constantly pretending to love her non-biological child with chronic admissions of guilt that she tries to prove her behavior wrong with words. The chronic verbal phrase is said so often "I love you" but adoptive mother's behavior, attitude and regard toward the adopted child reflect the opposite truth of adoptive mother...."I hate you".
The adoptive mother's chronic retelling that the child is "adopted" to everyone she and the adopted child come into contact with proves to everyone that hears her speak, Is that the adoptive mother feels compelled to justify her toleration in the adopted child's relationship to others. If the adoptive mother simply introduced the child as her child, the child would feel wanted and trust the parent-child relationship.
The broken heart that is forced on the adopted child can never heal, especially with the most conscious and caring adoptive parents. The adoptive parents must realize that the adopted child's biological parents will always be with the child in the mind and heart. There is no adoption birth miracle or absence of awareness of the child's biological parents. They are can not be reduced by psychology theories to the child's biological parent fantasy, they exist in this world and belong to the adopted child forever as their biological birthright....to someday be united. Good or bad, no non-adopted person has the right to judge or render negative opinion, as negative opinions are only used to negatively influence adopted children with fear based biases and threats of abandonment if the adoptee follows their own heart and judgments to seek out their own personal truth.