The Intolerant Adoptive Mother's Indifference
In the article below lists eight types of toxic mother daughter relationships, and are usually based on a mother's biological offspring. To the adopted child, the quagmire lies in the fact that this is not your biological mother, and your biological mother was taken away from you by force. The adoptive mother can not relate the adopted child or the reality of trying to assume control over another mother's child.
In my own experience, from infancy I was avoided, sent away or ignored. As I grew into adolescence my adoptive mother began to smother me, not letting me out of her sight, I took this as a punishment and hated the loss of my motherless freedom. Growing up without knowing what a mother is, was advantageous to my adopted childhood, then to be smothered by her domination was like living daily in a prison. In the lists below, I identify many of the bad adoptive mother patterns within each of the eight titles. As an older adult of 47, I now personally Identify most all mothering behaviors as provoking my anxiety that create resentment and anger within me. I fear this non-existent mother that i haven't spoken to in years, yet is ever lurking in my grown up fears. I can never escape my childhood neglect or maltreatment, it is never quite enough time or distance to forget the plague that was forced on me at birth.