Now Allowed to Have Personal Emotions
Most psychologically maltreated adopted children were not allowed to express their emotions, know what their emotions feel like and were forced to suppress their emotional feelings to be submissive.
When an adopted child has done what is expected of them...to be the compliant adopted child.
The adoptive parent's expectation that the adopted child act in a certain manner and produce the "illusion of gratefulness", costs the adopted child current and future emotional well-being.
By swallowing their emotions throughout childhood, the silence that stood in place of the screams still remains alive within us and is transferred to a new form. The energy that it takes to hold in these loud screams from adopted childhood violations, injustice and humiliation that is directed inside of our psyche, destroying our ego...To finally render the adopted child's spontaneous childlike ways defeated, over thrown and all hope is disarmed. As the divine spark of humanity that only a child can possess, becomes soiled, used up and aged long before their little bodies can grow up.
The root of the adopted child's psychological insult is perpetual, created and recreated daily by the domination of the adoptive mother's narcissistic ego.
All of a childhood's paced out changes are arrested by the adoptive parent's need to control their environment, of which the adopted child is an unfortunate pawn, always in the way and has the extreme potential to annoy, anger and embarrass the parent within their safe controlled environment.
Due to the non-existence of the adopted child's birth, the adoptive parent does not experience the adoptee as a child, nor will the adopted child grow into an adult, only being seen through the eyes of the adoptive mother is crippling to the adopted child's psychological health. The adopted child will never experience age appropriate freedoms, challenges, milestones or stages in childhood changes, nor will the adoptive mother acknowledge these stages of human development.
The expectations of the adoptive mother is her personal choice of life continuity. To have her desires, wants and needs met when she demands actions, performance, comforting, ego stroking and inflating. The adoptive mother demands a great cost to the adopted child for her deliberate charitable involvement in adopting a child. Due to the costs to her financially, privacy, happiness and energy she expects to be paid back with interest in the form of owning the child's body, soul and mind. Due to the excessive costs to the adopting mother, she demands silence, compliance and submission from her charge.
She expects to be made to feel good, to be served and to be worshiped by the adopted child that she bought and paid for.