Adoptive Parent's Emotional Hunger Consequences
The unfortunate adopted children that are raised by the emotional hungry adoptive mother, will carry her burden along with the emotional destructive behavior that the adoptive mother conditioned the adopted child with this distress, is forced to accept and tragically become.
"Real Love is Not the Three word Phrase...I Love You"
Many abused, neglected and maltreated adopted children have had the words "I Love You" beat into them on a regular basis by their emotionally starving adoptive mothers.
Add the old wives tale "your biological mother LOVED you so much that she chose to abandon you to adoption". To the adopted child the chronic repeated words "I Love You" have absolutely NO Meaning, and to adoptee's like me those words just make us mad.
Some adopted children become aware that they are only acceptable when they are playing the "adopted child role" to please the adoptive mother's needs.
The adopted conditioning we received can never be erased as easily as our original birth names and families.
Through the new knowledge of how and why we were abused by our adoptive parents, we can begin to comprehend the complexities of our intentionally distorted childhoods and begin to heal from the damage perpetrated by our mentally compromised adoptive mothers. Some may find forgiveness if they can get past the anger of our childhoods being used.
Emotional Hunger Vs. Love