Why Adopted Children Lie
As an adopted child grows up, they are taught to lie by their adoptive parents about the most fundamentally important fact of an individual IS who they are, their name. The adopted child is taught to lie several times a day, every is a lie when the child is asked their name.......for an adopted child their adopted name is a lie. To say that their adoptive parents are their mom and dad is a lie.
All aspects of the adopted child's life and knowledge of their adoptive story are lies that are made to make the adoptive parent feel better about raising a stranger's and someone else's biological child.
The adoption story is usually a story book happy ending for the benefit and to benefit the adoptive parent's self image. Usually the adoptive story is a complete falsehood and complete falsehood from the factual truth of who the child is and who their parents were.
My adoptive mother used to tell me the false story that my biological mother was a tall red haired woman that someday would come back to get me. Nothing could be further from the truth of this adoption story, as my biological mother is a short blond that never came to pick me up. My adopted name was changed to Melissa, yet my real name is Cherie Lynn.
The adoptive mother said that I was Irish and the truth is that I am a member of the North Carolina Cherokee Band of Indians. When an adoptee grows up and seeks out the truth of who I am, these made up stories begin to infuriate the adoptee as we realize that everything we have been told is a lie and we lived our entire lives as ignorant lies.
We adoptee's hate the lies we are told as we clung to any shred of the truth based evidence toward who we were before the adoptive parents force us and conditioned us to play the adopted child roles that the adoptive parents thought would bring them satisfaction from their unsatisfied desires.
As adopted children we are overly familiar with knowing to the degree that we have disappointed, dissatisfied and are complete failures in providing our adoptive parents with their second best, worst choice and last resort scenarios of filling the wholes in the broken hearts of our adoptive parents.
The daily lies we are forced to tell get crossed with the adoptive parent's demands for being fulfilled as adopted children are rarely adopted to reach our best potentials as individuals.
We are adopted to fill a void in the lives of adoptive parents, and part of that fulfillment includes the demand of telling the adoptive parents what they want to hear as this is a primary point to our adopted child conditioning.
The need that we were supposed to fulfill ends in obvious failure and there becomes secondary purposes for our life to amuse, to entertain and become the adoptive parent's personal court jester for life.
The Theft of the Adopted Child's Dignity: Is the theft of our biological family, robbed of our culture and they steal our identity by erasing our true and real biological name.
The adopted child comes into an adoptive home stripped of biological family, dignity, heritage and self-worth. They take away from the adopted child all of the things that are priceless to all persons. The things that no amount of money can buy and the things that can never legally be restored to the adopted child.
We adoptee's are abandoned, sold and bought without any human value as the commodity of the adoption industry. Adopted children are compelled to steal because we will never have anything that we truely need.
We adoptee's will never possess again the most important element of human existence that was our identity. Adoptees have been stripped of all humanity, broken like livestock and auctioned off like worthless human slaves.
We are expected to remain ignorant of the priceless possessions we once retained, and scorned socially at any attempt to regain our lost possessions.
As adoptee's were born free and sold into slavery and expected to be grateful to our masters kindness, yet we are still the slaves that are disregarded by humanity.
Adoptee's are trained to fulfill the adopted child's role, that becomes the hangman's noose as we grow into cognitive understanding of what has happened to us. We adoptees are forbidden and beaten into submission as a part of the silence that condemns adopted children to a life of slavery's cruel servitude.
As the perpetual stranger allowed and tolerated to exist as a subordinate.