The Adopted Child's Psychological Destruction
Caused By Paranoid Adoptive Mothers
Exploring Psychological Paranoia
Most adopting mothers are forced into the last option and second best alternative of infertility. As the cause and effect of infertility and the lifelong grief experiences from a child's deaths accompany the adoptive mother with the mental illness that follows the tragedy or lack of ability to raise your own offspring.
Child adoption can only satisfy the temporary demand for a baby, but does not heal the horror of lived experiences of the birth of a stillborn child, a child's untimely death or the inability to conceive and give birth. Adoption can only remedy a demand, but not heal the suffering, grief and mental anguish that lives on inside the mind and body of the deprived mother.
Psychological impairments and mental problems emerge from tragic life experiences, especially when the suffering mother refuses to obtain the proper type of psychological help or therapy that will properly give her the tools that allow her to deal with the tragedy or painful experiences.
Most adopting mothers refuse to address their own psychological problems, instead believing that adopting a child will remedy to her mental suffering.
What commonly occurs is the mother's false belief that the adopted child can cure her becomes a dismal failure for the adopted child's life. As a mentally compromised adoptive mother does more harm to the adopted child than good.
The adoptive mother smothers the adopted child with her own paranoid and fear based reasoning. The adopted child grows up to believe that this strained adopted relationship is a normal part of the adopted child's miserable life.
The adoptive mother teaches the adopted child all of her irrational fear, psychotic coping mechanisms and her chronic and obvious overreactions to simple and non complex situations.
The adopted child is mentally compromised from the start being intentionally severed and separated from family familiarity, ostracized and isolated into an adopted child's role to appease the psychotic whims of a mentally impaired paranoid adoptive mother,
Who's psychological well being continue deteriorating from her refusal of mental help and her denial.
EXPLORING Psychological PARANOIA
What Causes Paranoia?
Underneath the Accusations
- Guilt – Paranoid people are terrified that, once others get to know them, they will be shocked by what an awful person they are. This is because they have been so often beaten down and humiliated.
- “They are chronically warding off this humiliation, transforming any sense of culpability in the self into dangers that threaten from outside. They unconsciously expect to be found out, and they transform this fear into constant, exhausting efforts to discern the ‘real’ evil intent behind anyone else’s behavior toward them.” (She’s does not like me; he is out to get me) (218)
- Shame – Sometimes paranoid people are so adept at denying and projecting their emotions that they no longer feel shame. They spend their time combating anyone they think might attempt to humiliate them. (217)
- Aggression – Some researchers propose that many paranoid adults were aggressive, angry children who could not figure out how to process their feelings in a healthy way. Their caregivers may have struggled to deal with a challenging child, and their negative reactions reinforce the child’s perception that others are out to get them. (216)
- Fear – One of their most overwhelming emotions. “Analysts have long referred to the kind of fear suffered by paranoid clients as ‘annihilation anxiety;’ that is, the terror of falling apart, being destroyed, disappearing from the earth.” (217)