The Invalidating Emotion of an ADOPTEE'S Anger
It is Ironic that when an adoptee is considered, but if the adoptee speaks any shred of truth, that to adoptive community is considered vile, they are dismissed as angry and invalid.......
Yet the "adoption truth" is anything but invalidating to an adoptee speaking or listening. Adoption truth is the most grimacing, hideous and heinous crime that is far worse than the death of a child at birth.
As the child is stolen, taken and forced away by the very people that will grow to loathe the mother's gift of life, the mother's life existence, and the denial of her pain, lifelong torment and suffering. The mother becomes the unseen enemy of the adopting parent, the adoption industry and society as they all hate her and wish her dead. As the biological mother is a constant threat in the mind of the adoptive mother, that will one day return to the parent-child relationship. Although the biological mother is alive and well in the heart and mind of her child who will always love her unconditionally, and the adopted child will eventually become the biological mother in appearance, personality and genetic duplicate in life.
The adoptive parent's entitlement can not eradicate the biological mother from their adopted child's heart or mind, no matter the lengths and efforts made to discredit her and make her out to be the evil villain.
The biological mother is forever with the adopted child in her absence, she can see traces of her while looking in the mirror, the adopted child is hearing their biological mother in their own voice and the intuition between mother and child never weakens through time. The biological mother can't be washed or scrubbed off the adopted child and the reality of biological children is that eventually the adopted child becomes their biological mother in adulthood. When the adoptee finally reunites with her mother she will realize that she has never lost her and that she has always been with the adopted child throughout the childhood and life. Absence cant erase the mother-child bond.