Forgiving Our Abuser.......Adoptee Seeking How
Forgiving the Abuser
A Course in Miracles is as good an excuse for mankind's existence as we shall ever encounter and is perhaps, after all, a still, small hope for our ultimate survival.
Such is the Holy Spirit's kind perception of specialness; His use of what you made to heal, instead of harm (T-25.VI.4:1).
For the reality of guilt is the illusion that seems to make it heavy and opaque, impenetrable, and a real foundation for the ego's thought system (T-18.IX.5:2).
Sin [or guilt] is a block, set like a heavy gate, locked and without a key, across the road to peace.… The body's eyes behold it as solid granite, so thick it would be madness to attempt to pass it. Yet reason sees through it easily, because it is an error.… Reason will tell you that the form of error is not what makes it a mistake.… The body's eyes see only form. They cannot see beyond what they were made to see.… unable to look beyond the granite block of sin, and stopping at the outside form of nothing.… Yet how can sight that stops at nothingness, as if it were a solid wall, see truly? It is held back by form, having been made to guarantee that nothing else but form will be perceived (T-22.III.3:2,4-5; 5:1,3,4,6,8-9).
Time really, then, goes backward to an instant so ancient that it is beyond all memory, and past even the possibility of remembering (M-2.4:1).
Each day, and every minute in each day, and every instant that each minute holds, you but relive the single instant when the time of terror took the place of love (T-26.V.13:1).
The Holy Spirit takes you gently by the hand, and retraces with you your mad journey outside yourself, leading you gently back to the truth and safety within. He brings all your insane projections and the wild substitutions that you have placed outside you to the truth. Thus He reverses the course of insanity and restores you to reason (T-18.I.8:3-5).
But every pain you suffer do you see as proof that he [your abusing brother] is guilty of attack. Thus would you make yourself to be the sign that he has lost his innocence, and need but look on you to realize that he has been condemned.… Whenever you consent to suffer pain, to be deprived, unfairly treated or in need of anything, you but accuse your brother of attack upon God's Son. You hold a picture of your crucifixion before his eyes, that he may see his sins are writ in Heaven in your blood and death, and go before him, closing off the gate and damning him to hell (T-27.I.2:2-3; 3:1-2).
Tolerance for pain may be high, but it is not without limit. Eventually everyone begins to recognize, however dimly, that there must be a better way (T-2.III.3:5-6).
Christ passes no one by. By this you know
He is God's Son. You recognize His touch
In universal gentleness. His Love
Extends to everyone. His eyes behold
The Love of God in everything He sees.
(The Gifts of God, p. 95; italics mine)