Why Adoptive Parent's Deny their Adopted Child's Adoption Related Issues
The common theme among outspoken adoptive mother's is proving that adoption related issued do not exist in their adoption case.
The adoptive mother must prove to her social community that adoption grief and the adopted child's problems can be overcome by the adoptive mother's superior parenting skills.
Most adoptive mother's can't be bothered by her adopted child's adoption related issues, as she is too busy to deal with them, if - in fact they existed in the first place.
When problems do arise for the outspoken adoptive mother, she will feel ashamed and a fraud for denying that adoption related problems exist.
The adoptive mother's personal stake in making the adopted child look socially symptom free, as if the child was suffering from being adopted it would reflect badly on the adoptive mother.
So any adoption related issues that the adopted child may be or is suffering from are kept hidden, secret, ignored and denied by the outspoken adoptive mother.
As the adoptive mother's beliefs that her love would be enough to save the adopted child from themselves, their biological family and the adopted child's culture. The only fact that is the adopted child is better off with the adoptive family, in the child's best interests being adopted by the adoptive family, being saved from the adopted child's own life by the adoptive family seems intrusive and forceful.
When a "savior" adoptive parent experiences issues and psychological problems with the adopted child that they saved, the adoption related problems make the adoptive parent look bad, So the adoptive parent has the option to fall back on the biological family's blame for the current problems, and never the circumstances of tearing mother and newborn infant apart.
Some adopted children resent the adopting parents, as their demand for human cargo was what lead to the mother-child bond being broken to provide for the third parties desperate need to become the parents of another mother's newborn infant.
The adopting parent's financially driven demands to the adoption industry is what separates mothers from their offspring, by force or coercion.
As our society believes that money does buy children
and that because people have wealth, they will make better parent's than a child's own mother and father.
The financial blackmail coerces a mother to give away her baby to people that have more financial stability, although the financial stability fluctuates through time and is not dependable, guaranteed or absolute that wealth will last through the childhood of an adopted child, or the adopted child is assumed wealthy because the adoptive parents are wealthy.
The assumption that financial wealth is more important than a mother's love for her child offspring is the worst part of child adoption. Buying children and using them as pawns for personal desires to be fulfilled is a sickening game. That the adopted child is seen as nothing more than a current day court jester to entertain and fulfill the temporary desires of their master, adoptive mother.