About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

Factual Differences Between Adopted Child and the Biologically Raised Child, Denied By Many Adoptive Parents


The Factual Differences Between Biological Raised Child and the Adopted Child

The many adoptive parents that claim they are offended by the obvious FACT that raising adopted children
is far different than bearing and raising biological offspring. The adoptive parent's that deny the obvious, also deny the facts of adoption that the adopted child has another set of parents, siblings, grandparents and extended family of which the temporary lost adopted child still exist in the minds, hearts and the biological ancestral family tree where the adopted child will one day claim his position within this genetic family tree.
The adoptive parent's that engage in pretending that there are no differences negatively impact the adopted child's psychological health and well being, as the adopted child must go along with the adoptive parent's charade of adoption pretense.

They don’t always feel the difference, ignore the obvious differences and more importantly, they don’t want to see the differences. This denial of the differences that the public can see but the adoptive parent's deny that these differences exist, makes the adopted child question the sanity of their adoptive parents, question the adoptive parent's motivation for living these lies and the adopted child feels ambiguity toward the factual truth which has become a questionable stand by the adoptive parent's denials of facts and truths.

The adopted child is not of the adoptive parent's genetic makeup, biological, Nor is the adopted child a blood relative.  
The adopted child usually possess abilities, personality traits, psychological gifts and physical talents that don’t run in the adoptive family.  The common mistake and psychological injury in adoptive families is to try to “make” the adopted child into a biological child by telling them what they will like and what they will do that is not natural to the disposition of the adopted child, but is forced on the adopted child in the adoptive parent's attempt to mold the adopted child into what they want will always fail miserably. 

  Perhaps the child doesn’t want to be a football player or a musician.  The true joy of being an adoptive parent is to love each of your children for their uniqueness.  They don’t know who they are, yet, having no family history to inherit, they live life with blinders on.

Not all adoption situations are the same, but following are some differences that generally apply to most adoptions –
            1) An adopted child has four parents.  He lives with two and he thinks about the other two even though he may never meet them. A) A biological child has two parents.
            2) An adopted child usually does not live with anyone he is related to, he has no biological tie.          A) The biological child is related to all members of his family.
            3) An adopted child has no ‘hand me down’ physical traits or common talents that run in the family. A) A biological child often has the binding element of being similar in physique, temperament, and talents to his parents and siblings.
            4) An adopted child knows he was placed into his family by other people’s decisions.   
A) A biological child was placed by nature’s decision. One is artificial and one is natural.
            5) An adopted child does not share naturally in the family heritage Forced By Legal adoption. 
A)  A biological child feels a sense of belonging and a natural affinity to his heritage.
            6) An adopted child was relinquished by his birth parents.  This issue can have a great impact on a large population of adoptees. A)  A biological child was born into a family and that is where he belongs.
A) the adopted child will one day return to his biological origins as an adult seeking truth and Identity.