Adopted Child Living In Fear of Adoptive Parents
For the 25% or more of adopted children who's best interests were not served, the are the abused adopted children that are scolded, shamed and nit-picked on a daily basis. The intolerant adoptive mother serves as the disappointed adoptive parent that feels the need and is compelled to verbally destroy the adopted child's character, self-esteem and cripple the adopted child's self awareness.
The adoptive mother's dis-approving voice, resentment toward the adopted child, and the adoptive mother's favorite habit is the constant
picking apart of the adopted child's failures in life and focus on the child's failure to be the ideal adopted child.
The adoptive mother's intentional psychological destruction causes the adopted child's emotional retardation of the adopted child's psyche.
The adoptive mother's forceful, loud and reactionary behavior toward the adopted child is selective of the adopted child alone, as the adoptive mother does not treat her own biological offspring with such anger, hostility and venomous contempt for the adopted child outsider.
The selective affection and lack of nurturing toward the non-offspring child in an adoptive parenting situation, is a natural and truthful behavior that is predictive in science, social sciences and psychology.
The blood offspring preference in maternal investment parenting and proven time and again in child abuse statistics as adopted and step children, the non-biological children are the number one population in the United States of abused children.
The specific negative and hostile behavior toward the adopted child and normal loving mother nurturing and parental investment of the biological offspring proves that the negative behavior problem is selective to the adopted child, that is not her biological offspring therefore being adopted and not the parent's blood offspring is the exact problem in the parent-child relationship and the reason for the predictable non-offspring child abuse.
The adoptive mothers negative regard is not a cruelty conspiracy, but a natural drive to promote the blood offspring over the non-biological adopted child relationship. The constant verbal attacks is an unconscious activity to remind the adopted child of their outcast, non-biological status, lower cast and class.
Constantly reminding the adopted child of their differences and flaws is a natural theme between adoptive mother and adopted child as the adoptive mother lacks education , empathy and remains in developmental arrest. The mother's negative parenting actions is all that she is capable, living with limited mental resources, refusing mental health growth or psychological counselling that provides education, mental growth and maturity.
The adoptive mother that is verbally, physically, sexually and psychologically abusive toward the adopted child creates in the adopted child fear of the adoptive mother. The complacent adopted child fares the worst as they try to adapt and support their abusing mother by silence. The adopted child that is "Acting Out" is the most psychologically healthy, resilient and self preservation motivated. They will not develop fear of the abusive parent as they will retaliate against the abuser. The complacent adopted child will always live in fear of their adoptive parent to the extreme of mental illness or psychopathy.
Ten Signs of a Child's fear of their Adoptive Parent
- Your adopted child might display fear in the form of cringing whenever you raise your voice. If you tend to be loud, animated, or worse, violent when you are upset, the effects on your children become be severe.
- When your child flinches at a raised hand, or sudden, unexpected movements on your part, this is a strong indicator that she is afraid of you. A child who has been disciplined through corporal punishment is apt to be less receptive to any physical contact, including expressions of affection.
- Children are less apt to approach a parent they fear when they have a need or a question, and will tend to go either to the other parent or another adult instead. If your kids rarely or never confide in you, your trust level with them is in need of repair.
- Your child may not show signs of affection like hugs and kisses. Fear and resentment keep them at a distance, despite the fact that they are openly affectionate toward others. If your kids show a reluctance to get close to you physically, you need to find out why.
- A child who lives in fear of his parent(s) is liable to become emotionally withdrawn. If your kid isn’t willing to express his feelings with you, it may be out of fear of being ridiculed or rejected. This is especially true if your child is willing to share those feelings with others instead of you.
- Older children might make constant excuses to avoid being alone with you, such as staying over at a friend’s house, or being late from school. When a child shows a consistent reticence to be in your company with no one else around, you are the problem.
- When a kid sees her parent upset often, she can eventually begin to wonder whether that’s the parent’s natural state. At best, it will lead to apprehension about your mood. So if your kids frequently ask you if you’re mad or upset, it’s time to look in the mirror.
- In a divorced home, if your kids express a desire to live permanently with their other parent, you need to find out what it is that is causing your kids to want out. In combination with other signs listed here, it may be a sign that you’re scaring them away.
- Children often express themselves through drawings. Your child might be showing fear of you in his depictions of home life. If your child fears you, he may render your appearance as having an angry look, hands raised, disproportionate size, menacing pose, dark colors, etc.
- Misdirected anger is often a side effect of fear itself. When a child displays hostility or intimidating behavior toward others, it could be reflective of his own fears of abuse or hostility from you.