Adopted Child's Lack of Perspective
The adopted child's only possessions are his conception, birth, psychological beginning and past, Identity, parent & family and history are erased and kept as legal secrets from the adopted child.
The only psychological possessions that belong to the human individual constitute his dignity, history and belonging.
Adopted children are robbed of their only psychological possessions and legally kept from knowing these dignifying self- esteem based knowledge are the personal possessions that constitute the foundations of all human beings.
The beginning of life, genetic and ancestral history and the biological family make up the welcoming committee for human birth. When these possessions are taken away from an individual and replaced with temporary substitute identity, family and a blank history we have no beginning of which we started.
Without a beginning we can not conceive of the future, so adoptee's are compromised to living in the present without future or past.
Adoptee's can not calculate or plan future events, as the concept of future doesn't compute.
The adopted child can't plan, can't save money, cant see beyond today. Although life goes on, day after day, for the adopted child life is only about the now.
As the concept of the future is not achievable without the cognitive knowledge of the whole time frame of an individual's life.
Adult adoptee's attempting to make sense of search and reunion dialog takes an enormous amount of time to recreate the past through third party of what took place in the past, exaggeration and omission of serious details plague the truth and vague the facts of informational versions that are biased to the person retelling their history.
Adoptees must sift through other peoples truths to find shreds of personal truth that apply to the adoptee's omitted history.
When we think we have found some truth in facts they are discounted by yet another relatives version of what went on in childhood's past.
We find ourselves piecing together a puzzle of which we can't obviously identify the pieces, and only know the general outline of the end result.
The life of an adoptee must be put together with great patients as the people we are forced to rely on for answers have personal stakes in keeping the past a secret or a humiliation for them in uncovering the truth of one's origins. There are no simple questions in adoption and the answers are dialogues that the truth must be sifted out of the thousands of sentences that make up novels of third party lives.