The Tragedy Of the Loss Of a Mother
When a tragedy strikes, any normal person wants to know did this happen? Why? What happened.....How could something like this occur? The public is astonished at why a tragedy happened to that particular victim, especially a newborn victim.
If the biological mother died at birth the child's truth would be considered more important. But she did not die and the child is left alone to fend for his own emotional scars that will grow in time.
Yet the newborn infant's tragedy of relinquishment, abandonment and eventually adoption, this tragedy is ignored. The adoptive parents can only see their own triumph and joy at getting a child.
But the adopted child has been through psychological hell and nobody validates, gives a fuck or even considers what the infant has suffered and will continue to suffer throughout his entire adult life.
When the infant grows into cognitive understanding and can make sense of the entire adoption truth and lack of truth of what has happened to him will continue devastate the adopted child mind forever.
The public's continued denial in ignoring the adopted child's life as a psychological tragedy.They only want to see only the positive adoption story and ignore the negative true life consequences from being an adopted child. The public denies the reality of adoption because it is too awful to conceive of.
Most people could never imagine giving away their own child or taking someone else's child away from their parents. We can not conceive of such an insult as giving away our own born child so we pretend it is acceptable in public.
Adoptive parent's can not deal with their own guilt and shame of infertility, much less can they deal with what assault they have caused on the child's mother.
The adoptive parents must remain psychologically stable by ignoring the realities of adoption, never allowing the child or mothers names to be spoken as a reminder of the tragedy they themselves created in their demand to become parents.
If they acknowledged the harm that the adoptive parents caused, they would not be able to live with what they have done.