Closing Open Child Adoption,
Adoptive Parent Divorce,
Revisiting The Adoption Triad....
In the United States, adopted children are considered by outsiders, non-adopted people and persons ignorant by choice to adoption truths, that adopted children are automatically somehow lucky, chosen and are expected to feel grateful about being the adopted child.....these ignorant statements are extremely wrong, insulting to adopted children and uninformed by choice.
The institution of adoption and the adoption industry
would like to keep this status quo of public ignorance and a stupid by choice society that continue to perpetuate and promote the adoption fantasy that is a stark contrast to the adopted child's plight and grim reality.
There are adoptive parents out there that practice and live the adoption reality of truth, keeping their adopted child, biological family connected and avoid the destructive circumstances of erasing the adopted child's name and identity. These adoptive parents are the adoptive parents that put the child's best interests before their own with the best of intentions for a hopeful, psychological healthy where the child is at the center of their own childhood.
The open adoption reality exists without adoption stigma, shame, secrets and lies that plague the adoption industry and destroy the adopted child's sense of self and identity. Although there is a growing population of adoptive parents intentionally and deliberate deception to the biological mother and legally close the adoption because of their own selfish insecurities that ultimately damage the psychological health adopted child's life, which is cruel and predictable of narcissistic personality disorder in adoptive mothers. There is no excuses for open adoptions to be closed, yet the adoptive mother's list of excuses probably does not include her own intolerance, selfishness or narcissistic behavior that led her to trick the biological mother in the first place. The adopted child and biological mother ultimately loose the adoption game of who owns the child, like a selfish game of divorce custody.
The truth of custody battles is never about the child, it is always about being slighted, saving face and making the person that insulted pay the ultimate price!
Adoptive Parent Divorce
It is assumed by society that a married adoptive couple is an advantage to a single biological parent, and states pay adoptive parents to parent adoptive children, never do states help to avoid the child's relinquishment in the beginning-which is the ultimate moral good to keep parent and child together.
The assumption that child adoption as a legal institution that offers many possibilities, but no legitimate realities to the adopted child.
The most annoying is the adoptive parents that get a divorce....Was not the adopted child supposed to save the marriage?
Child adoption holds absolutely no guarantee for the adopted child, of which has no legal recourse. The child that was adopted to a married couple that gets a divorce should have their own legal representation, at this point, the adopted child will usually be assigned to the adoptive mother. The adoptive father will build a new life with a new woman and distance himself from the divorced wife, and especially the adopted child. The adoptive mother will begin the prowl for a new companion, beginning the march of men through her home in view of the adopted child that also puts the adopted child at risk for sexual assaults. The divorced adoptive mother will ultimately rely on the adopted child for adult psychological support and becomes her sounding board for adult context that a child is not prepared to deal without maturity.
Adoptive parent divorce has serious psychological consequences for adopted children. Where the husband escapes the wife's domination, and the child is left behind to receive the adoptive mother's full dysfunctional attention. The adopted child is expected to exist among a scorned women's wrath
that will fill the adopted child's head with unhealthy, negative adult themes, psychological manipulations, toxic drama-trauma and the disturbing behavior of an angry divorcee parentification tactics against the adoptive father.
It seems logical when adoptive parents divorce that the child's adoption should come into question, as it should nullify the child adoption contract., At this time the child's adoption should be called in to question and biological parents should be contacted and included in the child custody battle during the divorce proceedings. This would be in the best interests of the adopted child, the "Adoption Triad Revisited".
This type of intervention would give the adopted child a chance to reunite with their real parents and avoid being involved in the fall-out from a bad divorce.