Adoptive Parent's Emotional Hunger
The adoptive parent has succumbed to the least desirable alternative to bearing offspring it their attempt to fulfill the emotional void and that drives the emotional hunger in their life.
Emotional Hunger is not love. It is a strong emotional need caused by deprivation in childhood. It is a primitive condition of pain and longing which people often act out in a desperate attempt to fill a void or emptiness.
This emptiness is related to the pain of adoption's isolation and separateness that can never realistically be fully satisfied in an adult relationship. Yet people refuse to bear their pain and to face the futility of gratifying these primitive needs and dependency. The adopted child will deny the fact of their own ultimate death and do everything in their power to create an illusion that they are connected to other persons.
This fantasy of belonging to another person allays the anxiety about death and gives people a sense of immortality. Hunger is a powerful emotion, which is both exploitive and destructive to others when it is acted out. People identify this feeling with love and mistakenly associate these longings with genuine affection. Nothing could be further from the truth.