About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Adoptee's Impossible Task Of Identifying Feelings

ADOPTEE RAGE!

Adoptee's Impossible Task Of Identifying Feelings
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The Eight Core Issues In Adopted Child's attempts at constructing their true self by acknowledging real and unpleasant feelings:

#1. Loss:
      What, who, when, why & How Adoptee's loss...
      Loss of maternal and paternal families, siblings,
      ancestry, heredity,. Loss of the true self in the
      attempt to fit the "adopted child's role".

#2. Rejection:
      We are rejected, we are ignored by our family           extended, maternal, paternal and Adoptive               family, peers, community, society & ourselves.
      We adoptees reject ourselves and reject the
      the boyfriend, friend and anyone we trusted
      before they will reject us to save face., As they
      will eventually dump us because we are not
      worthy...deep down inside we are not accepted.

#3. Shame:
      Adoptee's are born as the proof of shame.
      The constant humiliating of the adopted child
      by the adoptive mother's need for public                   attention & recognition for adopting a child. The
      "savior" for adopting a child reinforces the shame
      and humiliation that the adopted child feels each
      time the adoptive mother re-tells that the child is
      adopted she receives gratification, ego boosting.

#4. Guilt:
       Adoptee's are punished and manipulated as a
       tool of Guilt by adoptive parent programming.
       Making the adopted child feel guilty is a common
       and psychologically manipulating cruelty by
       selfish adoptive parents. Making adopted child
       responsible for the parent's well-being a tactic
       to retain control and domination over adoptees.

#5.  Grief:
       The grief that plagues adopted child & adult              adoptee is not allowed to be acknowledged,
       spoken or discussed. Adoptee's must hold-in
       their grief and pretend that the overwhelming            feeling of pain & suffering does not exist.

#6.  Identity:
       The adopted child's identity is erased, hidden
       and changed for the purpose of concealing the          truth of the child's authentic identity and the
       identity of the child's biological parents. The
       adopted child is expected to lie about who he
       really is and pretend to be child of the adopter.

#7.  Intimacy:
       The adopted child/adult adoptee has extreme
       difficulty at pretending to care, pretending to
       connect to others and acting like they are some
       how bonded to other human beings. Attachment
       Failure and primal attachment severing by child        relinquishment at birth is the contributing factor.

#8. Mastery-Control:
      The child development pyramid my Erickson
      is not accomplished as normal biologically raised
      children meet this standard. The overbearing,
      controlling and dominating adoptive parent
      creates in the adopted child a fear based                   childhood environment where the child                     experiences and is conditioned, to being confined       controlled, suffocating & prison type of master
      and servant relationship. Normal childhood               freedom, play and exploration is non-existent
      in the adopted child's narcissistic structural
      environment created by the confident lacking
      or narcissistic personality disordered adoptive           mother.