Adoptee Too Afraid to Speak In Therapy
The submissive, kept separate from the adoptive family and mentally dominated adopted child is not welcomed or comfortable to speak when put on the spot. There is some sort of overbearing fear if the adoptee speaks and the fear of a more condemning punishment from the adoptive parent if the adoptee says anything out of the norm of allowed responses.
In the adopted child's counselling appointment, with the adoptive mother glaring at the adopted child that renders him speechless when the therapist asks the adoptee a question. The mouth opens but only fear and silence comes out. Sometimes I would be so afraid of the punishment that would take place in the car ride home.
When the adoptive mother is asked to sit outside, the questions asked of the adopted child are met with paralyzing fear. The mouth opens but no sound comes out. The face wrinkles in despair, and the effort becomes enraged with anger. Trying to answer the therapist the open mouth crackles with lack of sound and the emotions of a thousand punishments jump out of the voice in a semi-yelling angry tone. Then the fear overcomes the adoptee, that the adoptive mother in the waiting room might hear what is said. The fear of the punishment comes on to silence the adopted child.
The adoptive mother wants the therapist to make the adopted child compliant, do better in school, and be more like her good biological children. The therapist asks the child to come alone to the next meeting.